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Give Yourself the Gift of Kindness This Holiday

2011-12-21T14:47:00.001-07:00

Disagreements with family members are something that most of us experience at one time or another. Sometimes the holidays creep up on us while we are still in the thick of these quarrels. Families are our biggest triggers during this time of year, because there can be so much guilt and emotional baggage during the festive season. But if you are looking for a reason to stop being a Grinch this season, consider this: you will allow your children to be happy and thus be guilt-free themselves. They will grow up in an emotionally healthy way. Tell yourself: “If I place my happiness in the hands of others I am giving away my own power. It is only by being happy myself that I can really give the best present of all, the gift of being joy-filled in the moment.”

Giving yourself permission to be happy is real love, and it is only when you truly love yourself that you can express your love to others. It is not a betrayal of your self to enjoy life without acceptance from every family member. Be prepared with a few of your favourite things. Make this a holiday to remember. Do that which gives your bliss: Draw, sing, dance, have a bath, watch movies, journal, go for a walk, blast your favourite music. The days can be yours to savour and enjoy as a precious gift to yourself. If you normally plan your time around your family, now you can choose some indulgent time for yourself. If you have favourite foods, stock up. If you have a favourite movie, rent it. Be proactive and decide ahead of time to relish the opportunities as they appear.

One fabulous way to soothe your emotions is to practice kindness. I have been the recipient of kindness, a giver of kindness and a witness to kindness. Every memory of kindness evokes wonderful and positive feelings in my brain and body. It makes me smile and brings a sense of contentment and peace.

Think of a time when you've been the recipient of a kind act. Relationships are the foundation of life and by being kind we nurture and develop them. We are designed to be social and those of us who develop loving relationships are boosting our health and happiness. Kindness is considered a spiritual practice.

Science has proven that practicing kindness stimulates a part of the brain known as the anterior cingulate, which in turns calms the amygdala, a part of the brain which helps us process our emotions.

Practicing kindness for a few minutes every day helps to train your brain to suppress anger and fear by allowing blood to flow into your frontal lobes. Stress and anger put your body on constant alert and flood your system with adrenaline and cortisol, which reduces your body's capacity to repair and care for itself. If it stays on high alert it further increases anger, fear, and distrust.

Neurochemicals created by anger, anxiety, and stress can damage the hippocampus (the part of the brain that helps us organize, store and process our memories). The good news is that spiritual practices can help you grow new neurons in your hippocampus and send calming soothing neurochemicals, like serotonin, into your nervous system. Deliberately practicing kindness will help your brain increase your happiness and have a positive effect in every aspect of your life. I have learned that when we are exposed to anger it takes only one second for our brains to respond in kind. We immediately shut down our frontal lobes making it impossible to listen and communicate well. Using and deliberately practicing kindness will bring more peace into the world and support your brain in a health-enhancing manner. Remember, you can’t control the people around you, but you can control how you react. Show love to those around you, and yourself, by practicing kindness this holiday season.

Deodorant and Aluminum

2011-11-04T08:30:00.000-06:00

As a Happiness Guru, I am extremely interested in ways to increase happiness naturally without drugs if at all possible.

Over the past four years I have been increasing my use of organic produce, organic beauty aids and chemical free or natural cleaners because of the link between toxins and depression. Health and Happiness are interrelated and I am always looking to increase my health in easy and effective ways.

It has come to my attention that aluminum is not a healthy ingredient in deodorants, especially for women. Dr Joseph Mercola’s website has posted this valuable information. Please pass it on to all your women friends and family.

“A study published this year in the Journal of Applied Toxicology, has shown that the aluminum is not only absorbed by your body, but is deposited in your breast tissue and even can be found in nipple aspirate fluid a fluid present in the breast duct tree that mirrors the microenvironment in your breast. Researchers determined that the mean level of aluminum in nipple aspirate fluid was significantly higher in breast cancer-affected women compared to healthy women, which may suggest a role for raised levels of aluminum as a biomarker for identification of women at higher risk of developing breast cancer.”

My choice is for soap and water and the occasional use of a more natural deodorant, which does not contain aluminum. Some actually contain a different type of compound known as an alum, the most common form being potassium alum, also known as potassium aluminum sulfate. Be sure to read all the ingredients and select carefully.

Why I've Banned My Bra

2011-11-03T07:34:00.001-06:00

I have been into comfort for a few years now. I insist on wearing clothes that move and stretch with me, the more comfortable my clothing is, the happier my body feels.

It has been a custom of mime to remove my bra when returning home from the outside world. While I love to be lifted, perky and shapely, there is a price to pay in stuffing my breasts into a garment meant to repel the natural forces of gravity. I admit that I can indeed hold a pencil underneath my breasts (which can end the constant search for writing tools).

Comfort aside, however, there is some compelling new research to ban your own bra.

Sydney Singer and Soma Grismaijer, authors of Dressed to Kill: The Link Between Breast Cancer and Bras, studied over 4,000 women and found that women who do not wear bras have a much lower risk of breast cancer. Their findings included:  

Women who wore their bras 24 hours per day had a 3 out of 4 chance of developing breast cancer
Women who wore bras more than 12 hour per day, but not to bed, had a 1 out of 7 risk
Women who wore their bras less than 12 hours per day had a 1 out of 52 risk
Women who wore bras rarely or never had a 1 out of 168 chance of getting breast cancer

Let your girls hang out at home in comfort and increase your health and well being at the same time.

After all you never know when you will need a pencil!

Happiness Is a Good Night’s Sleep

2011-10-13T12:08:00.002-06:00

The sun is rising over the horizon on what will be yet another beautiful day in your neighbourhood. Perhaps everyone you meet is wide awake, all smiles, welcoming this beautiful day. An ideal morning? Yes…if you have had a great night sleep.

Otherwise, lack of sleep can spin your life out of control as fast as a room full of dominos starting to fall against one another. As one starts to fall, they all start to fall in succession.

Tempers can flare and not-so-kind words can be uttered. Home and office dynamics all depend on getting a wonderful rest.

In a perfect world we would all get the proper amount of sleep, and everything would be peachy keen in our lives, but we all know that only happens in fantasy land, or in our dreams. Lack of sleep or sleep disorders like insomnia are real, and they affect millions of people worldwide from every walk of life.

Stress, work pressure, and hectic family life can often lead to sleep deprivation. Without a good rest it’s hard enough to get through your day, never mind be happy.

Is lack of sleep having an effect on your life? Sometimes lack of sleep can seem like tossing a rock into the water—ripples spread out farther than you can imagine.

Sleep deprivation decreases brain activity and limits access to learning, memory, and concentration. A recent brain imaging study showed that people who consistently slept less than seven hours had less overall brain activity. Sleep problems are very common in people who struggle with their thoughts and emotions. Getting enough sleep everyday is essential to brain function. 

Additionally, lack of sleep can have serious consequences on your health—like increasing your risk for heart disease, obesity, diabetes, high blood pressure, and even cancer. Lack of sleep has been proven to have a profoundly negative effect on your mood and overall level of happiness.

Studies suggest that even adding one hour of sleep to your nightly schedule could improve your happiness quotient significantly and that one of the top two reasons people find themselves in a bad mood at work was a poor night's sleep.

According to the National Sleep foundation, companies lose around $35 billion every year in loss of productivity, sick leave, medical expenses, and property and environmental damage, all thanks to their employees' sleep deprivation.

How can we start to achieve the good night’s sleep we deserve?

Trapper Sherwood, who suffered sleep loss during a divorce, offers a bit of advice: SLOW DOWN, breathe, and relax. Too many times we try to fall asleep with too many things on our mind. He suggests picking a target time to fall asleep at night—let’s say eleven pm. At ten pm finish any work and turn off your TV, including the evening news. Sometimes the images from the news can trigger our unconscious; as we lay down, we’ll think of those images.

Put on some relaxing music, something that your brain can relate to that will say: “Hey, time to shut all this work off, because it’s time to relax.”

And when you crawl into bed, sleep. Do not spend this time worrying about the day’s events, what may be coming up tomorrow, or even whether you have the money for the mortgage that may be due soon. As you lay in bed there is nothing you can do about those things, so please let it go.

A good night’s sleep will do you much better than forgoing sleep to worry about things and events beyond your control. Besides, isn’t the thought of waking up in a cheery mood a great plan of action to increase your happiness every day?

Sweet dreams.

Can you believe it?

2011-05-04T15:19:00.001-06:00

Late yesterday evening I walked to my neighborhood Safeway for some emergency, staple food items. I gathered my items and proceeded to the checkout where I realized I had not brought money to actually pay for the food. I found out that Safeway does not give the groceries to you if you can’t pay for them! Alas I had to walk back home empty-handed and return to the store—it felt like bad deja vu. Ever-mindful that I could still optimize my brain function by remaining in a calm and pleasant mood, I chalked this one up to experience and will not attempt to get groceries for free anymore!

I felt sooo bad!

2011-04-28T12:14:00.002-06:00

I love sitting in my sunny, west-facing kitchen when I'm drinking tea. Yesterday I noticed a great deal of activity over the deck, particularly under the awning. I watched for a little while then realized that sparrows were building a nest right in the movable arm of the awning. “Oh no, little birds,” I said, “that is not a safe place to build your nest. Don't get too far along with your building.” I talked to them and told them I was opening the awning to show them it was not a secure place to house a family. I know I scared them as it opened the arm, as they went over to the tree. I left it open for while hoping they would get the hint that finding a new location would be a wise choice.

Today I came home mid-afternoon and found a great deal of progress had been made on the nest. There were bits of debris all over my deck and the sparrows were busily working back in the original spot. Oh no… again I felt so bad that I had to remove them for their own good. I opened up the awning to remind them that this was not a permanent location. I wish my animal whisperer would find a way to communicate that I love them even though I might seem unfriendly.

I’m sorry little birds. I love you. Please forgive me. Thank you!

Act of Kindness

2011-03-09T10:39:00.000-07:00

I love to observe strangers offering kindness to each other.

On a flight recently I saw a young mother travelling with her baby in the seat ahead of me. I was close enough to overhear the woman next to her say that she would move to a different seat to give more space and an extra seat for her and the baby. The flight attendant did find an empty seat and off she went.

I was very delighted to observe yet another example of human kindness. This world is filled with loving people and knowing this is true helps me to be happier!

Please send or share your stories around experiencing the kindness of strangers.

Dashing through the Snow

2011-01-20T09:25:00.001-07:00

Okay more like plowing, plodding, slipping and sliding along with a huge chance of getting stuck…

Over the past few weeks my city has been deluged with snow. This huge amount of snow has created very interesting conditions on the roads. Snowplows and trucks are everywhere; three lane roads are reduced to two; and there’s tight, narrow driving through huge rows of snow, reducing visibility and blocking sidewalks. Traffic delays and accidents galore! Through these conditions I put into place my happiness strategies and plans and they work like a magic charm. Always be prepared for the conditions and remain in control or your happiness. Here are some tips:

1) Pee before you leave.
2) Use your “University on Wheels” and be productive: listen to inspirational or educational audios.
3) Take your time and practice not being in a hurry.
4) When you are late, stay calm. Anger and frustration will not get you there any faster.
5) Bring some water to drink in your vehicle.
6) Laugh in the face of the conditions and be friendly to the other stressed out drivers. Sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride. This is your life, why give another minute to misery?

Stay Happy!

Minding the dishes, mending the mind!

2010-12-07T13:46:00.001-07:00

My poor old dishwasher has been struggling with old age and loss of power, so I've stepped up to the plate (and cups and bowls) and become its assistant. I've been hand washing a large percentage of “just been cleaned” items. (I don’t think the dishwasher is going to make it much longer.) What I've noticed through this is that washing the dishes can be a very satisfying and relaxing task. I can listen to music and let my hands play in the water.

It gives my mind a few minutes of respite: Here I am washing the dishes…here I am cleaning this plate…here I am standing in my kitchen and looking out the window at the snow covered lawn. Here I am, right here and right now. It is very meditative and engaging when the brain needs a bit of rest.

After a celebration last weekend, one friend stayed behind to help with the dishes and again I found it to be an enjoyable experience side by side, talking or not talking. We were simply being present with the dishes. It was very calming after the hustle and bustle of the party.

Plus there is an immediate sense of completion and creating order out of chaos.

Elizabeth Manuel

Victor of Circumstance

2010-10-22T14:04:00.002-06:00

After I dropped my daughter off at her first high school football game, I was looking forward to bit of quiet time in my home office. I reached into my purse for my house keys…reaching turned to searching…with more urgency. Faster went my heart as I realized that I must have put the keys in the dash of my car and locked them into the garage. I was now locked out of the house, garage and vehicle. As luck would have it, I had to pee and it was getting a bit chilly to be standing outside. Think fast…what to do? How to get in? The “emergency” keys had obviously been used for another purpose and not been returned. Hmmm. I noted the need for family meeting on the meaning of emergency keys.

Okay I have my black belt and, conceivably, even in my heels, I could kick in the door. I imagined myself as the heroine in a kick butt series for about 5 seconds, and then realized I would have to pay for a new door jamb and lock. While it might feel exciting and release a large amount of adrenalin, I decided it would be too much fixing. Next up, call my daughter and see if she happened to take her keys to the game. OH NO! Blip bleep went my phone. I had only seconds to make one call.

My phone was on red alert, apparently it’s true we only to get to make one call! Who would have known?

Who do I call? My daughter might not answer call. I sent a quick text and got her reply: “No keys.”

Call a friend? Nope can’t come right now. No knight in shining armour this time. Luck ran out as the phone battery died.

Somehow I need to get a ladder to go in through second story window.

Neighbours?

Who do you drop in on mid-evening and involve in your drama? One neighbour is 94-year-old widow who speaks little English. Ah, the couple next door! But, I didn’t want them to feel obligated to help me. I know the firefighter across the street. Not home; so sad, too bad. By this time I was really really glad I had my wool scarf on. I couldn’t call anyone, no one was home and I was in heels.

My next destination was four blocks away, long time friends, I prayed, “Please God let someone be home so I can go in and warm up!” Yes! Thank you. Made it. Relief! One of the kids was home to let me in.

Now what? Oh yeah I had to get a ladder. I needed to wait for the parents to come home. Hanging around, grateful for warmth and with a possible solution manifesting, I felt confident that I will be home within a hour. I completely released any time that the waiting took to the moment. This was my current reality eventhough I would have preferred to be at home in my office. This substantial delay and comedy of errors found me keeping good humor and maintaining my calm.

This is huge shift for me. The old me would have been a raging maniac. How could this happen? I would have been thinking. Why me? Why me? Anger would boil and bubble and I would lose a few hours of happiness, and peace of mind. My body would pay for it with stress hormones and a raging, out of control amygdala. Thank goodness for spiritual practice and meditation. This sh— really works.

Instead of being a victim of circumstance I became a victor right from the first reaction. I remembered to breathe and stay calm.

So back to my mission of breaking in to my own home.

After twenty minutes of waiting with a teenaged boy getting very excited about going on an adventure through an upper window, he said, “Wait, don’t we have a set of keys for your house over here?”

“I don’t remember” I said, “but I do think it’s possible a number of years ago your family looked after our cat and maybe you still have the keys.”

He looked around in the key places, and suddenly remembered (could this be divine guidance?) to reach up to a top shelf. There, behind a picture, was a set of keys. While I do not have any instant recognition of the key chain, I saw two square silver keys, which seemed like a good indicator of hope.

I was all set to walk back home (in my heels) and try them out, when in came my friends!

I got a ride home and the key fits like Cinderella’s shoe!

Thank you, Universe, for surprising me with solutions to my problems.

Elizabeth Manuel

Ps. I refused to take the key back from my friends, you just never know!

Beaver “The Building of Dreams”

2010-10-13T13:34:00.000-06:00

What a spectacular fall season. I have been greatly enjoying this warm and sunny fall by taking walks in the river valley. Three times in the past month I have shared some time with a beaver. I got quite close to one while he or she was on the riverbank placidly eating bark off of a stick. After the third incident I thought I would investigate the message of the beaver. I didn’t believe this could be a coincidence, since I walk in the river valley a lot and have not chanced upon any beavers in years.

“If beaver has appeared in your life, it can reflect upon the opportunity to build upon your dreams” Ted Andrews – Animal Speak

Beavers remind us to act upon our dreams in order to make them a reality. As a coach and motivational speaker I know that I am living my dream more and more each day as I consciously choose to write and speak from my heart. I know how much courage and persistence it takes to fall down and get back up. I know that I wouldn’t trade my dream and go back to “work” because the urge and the call to live my dream is now firmly rooted.

If you need help building your dream, call me today for some life coaching and I will help you get started.

Elizabeth Manuel

Was it my fault?

2010-09-21T10:45:00.000-06:00

Yesterday I went out for a walk. I was standing at a marked crosswalk, waiting for the cars to stop to allow me to cross. The first two cars in both lanes stopped and I almost took my first step when I received an intuitive message to look again and realized that the car behind the first was not stopping. BAM! The sound still rings in my ears, as the first car was pushed forward into the intersection.

Saved!

Had I been in the crosswalk I surely would have gone flying with the impact.

The driver of the second vehicle was not paying attention and seemed as shocked as I was. I don’t know for sure if she was on the phone, but I suspect that to be the case.

The couple in the first car was okay, and did not require any immediate medical attention, thank goodness!

After all the formalities were concluded I continued for my walk, but felt less than inspired and happy. I kept hearing the crunch of impact over and over in my head.

I felt as though I was somehow at fault and also felt bad for the car that was hit because of stopping for me.

It took some mental fortitude and practice of what I preach to find peace with this situation.

Why did this accident happen?

I don’t know.

I simply must remember that I was in the right place at the right time. And for whatever reason the drivers in both cars learned something that day.

I learned to be extra cautious when crossing a busy street. I learned that I do not need to hold onto feelings that don’t contribute to my overall happiness by letting go of any guilt I may have harboured. No, it wasn’t my fault, and I can rest easy refusing to be a victim of circumstance. It happened and now I can move on.

I implore you to pay attention while driving and set your intention for safety.

To your continued happiness
Elizabeth

An Owl Encounter

2010-09-13T07:49:00.001-06:00

While out for a walk in the river valley, I heard some noises in a tree which encouraged me to stop and investigate. It seemed to be a strong urge to pay attention. I stood under the tree and looked way up and there it was: a beautiful owl. Looking right at me, silent and somewhat mysterious. I was craning my neck so hard that I sent it a message to come to a lower branch that I might receive some of its wisdom, and it did in fact come down about ten feet lower. I was very engaged with this owl in silent communication for about six minutes.

I really pay attention to the messages that various animals and birds bring to us. I knew that I needed to learn something that day and remember the bird’s gift.

I use the book Animal Speak by Ted Andrews to help me understand messages from the animal kingdom.

From Andrews’ book, I learned that the owl has acute vision and hearing, and working with owl medicine will help me be able to see and hear what others try to hide, protecting me from those who may try to deceive me. Linking this to metaphysics, which I talk about in my first book Living with the Angels, lessons from the owl can help in increasing clairvoyance and clairaudience and basically finding ways to trust our intuition and our own knowing.

By listening to our inner guidance we experience life in an extraordinary way.

My next class on Angels and Intuition starts Oct 7, in Edmonton, here you will:

Discover your intuitive potential through specific exercises designed to access the superconscious. Awaken your sixth sense and move into a more productive state creating awareness of your Self and the energy of others. If you've ever said "I knew I should have done that," this class is for you! A comprehensive exploration of the unseen world including: psychic protection, meditation, altered states of consciousness, chakras, auras, learning about the four main archangels and card readings.

If you have any questions please let me know.

E

Perimenopause Made Easy

2010-09-08T10:18:00.003-06:00

Perimenopause marks the period in which your body begins its transition into menopause. It's a natural part of aging that signals the ending of your reproductive years with declining and fluctuating levels of estrogen and progesterone.

If you do experience symptoms that interfere with your life or well-being, such as hot flashes, mood swings or changes in sexual function that concern you, see me for help. I practice clinical hypnotherapy, which offers support and respect for this natural process. The experience of perimenopause is largely determined by our beliefs, which need to be updated. We live in a world under the constant barrage of negative messages surrounding aging.

Here are a few things you can do to alleviate symptoms:

Practice good nutrition. A healthy diet is more important than ever. Adopt a low-fat, high-fibre diet that's rich in fruits, vegetables and whole grains. Avoid alcohol and caffeine, which can trigger hot flashes.

Daily movement. Regular physical activity helps prevent weight gain, improves your sleep, strengthens your bones and elevates your mood. Try to exercise for 30 minutes or more on most days of the week.

Stress reduction. Practiced regularly, stress reduction techniques, such as meditation, hypnotherapy and yoga, can promote relaxation and good health throughout your lifetime, but may be particularly helpful during the menopausal transition.

The emphasis in hypnotherapy is on building health rather than on fighting disease.

In our culture, many women tend to be operating with an internal hormonal balance tipped toward the estrogen side of the scale. This tilt is often the result of a diet high in refined carbs and low in quality protein, a lack of essential nutrients and fats, and chronic exposure to environmental toxins and artificial hormones such as endocrine disruptors. Prolonged emotional and physical stress, which I define as anything that works against your state of balance, will also upset the hormonal balance. In today’s fast-paced, disconnected, eat-and-run world, it is no surprise to me that younger and younger women are coming in to my practice with symptoms of hormonal imbalance and perimenopause.

I have faith in my clients’ ability to adopt healthier lifestyle and eating habits. I know and have seen positive changes occur. And I will tell you this: no woman needs to suffer with symptoms of hormonal balance at perimenopause, menopause, or after menopause. You can feel better, and you can start right now by booking an appointment for clinical hypnotherapy.

Your emotional states can be brought on by hormonal fluxes, but this doesn't mean that they have to control you. Hypnosis helps you recognize your emotional stages realistically; giving you the control you need to move through them with ease.

When you are accepting and calm, you can feel relief from the physical effects of menopause. Your mind programming helps you overcome the symptoms like hot flashes as you move through this beautiful part of your life. Help with menopause begins with your mind, moves into your emotions and will help you feel the effects in your body.

Hypnotherapy works on a conscious and subconscious level to alleviate the symptoms of perimenopause. Once in this state of deep relaxation, you can learn to understand and improve symptoms and help manage your coping mechanism. Being able to cope with the menopause is a state of mind. Negative thoughts and emotions can affect your ability to deal with your feelings. Hypnotherapy will help to support your attitude toward this part of life.

We will also use relaxation techniques to reduce irritation and stress issues by working with the limbic centre in the brain to calm and soothe.

By using visualization exercises, in conjunction with setting new beliefs, thoughts and emotions into the subconscious mind, CHT will provide you with the tools to relax your body and calm your mind.

Hypnosis can prove effective with hot flushes and night sweats by reducing their intensity and frequency. Creating positive imagery and outcomes, the subconscious can begin to identify that menopause is a change that is necessary for a new and better lifestyle. With the subconscious receptive to positive suggestion and imagery, you will begin to manage specific symptoms, emotions and behaviour linked to perimenopause.

It is hoped that the sessions will help allow you to regain control and approach this natural process in a manner that can prove more beneficial than other “chemical” approaches by teaching you to turn down the heat sensation on demand, and by helping reduce the stress that is partly culpable in creating the flash (or flush). Plus work is done with your negative mindset about the physical and emotional elements of menopause and aging. We will also address feelings of anxiousness, crying, anger, moodiness, and lowered sense of self worth.

CHT works by sending messages to the brain for optimum health and well being.

I look forward to seeing you soon

Elizabeth Manuel B. Ed. CCHT

Happiness and an Attitude of Gratitude

2010-08-24T13:52:00.000-06:00

More on gratitude and happiness

2010-08-24T13:51:00.001-06:00

Happiness and music at the airport

2010-08-24T13:51:00.000-06:00

Warrior Extraordinaire!

2010-08-11T07:58:00.006-06:00

Warrior three is a powerful standing pose which helps increase stamina and improve strength in the legs and ankles. (See picture below.)

It may seem strange to name a yoga pose after a warrior since yogis are known for their non-violent ways. A wonderful yoga text, the Bhagavad-Gita, is the dialogue between two famous and feared warriors, Krishna and Arjuna, set on a battlefield between two great armies spoiling for a fight. What’s really being suggested in this pose’s name, and held up as an ideal for all practitioners, is the “spiritual warrior,” who bravely does battle with the universal enemy: self-ignorance (avidya), the ultimate source of all our suffering.

The warrior poses take strength, steadiness, and a fierce determination to hold them with integrity. The legs and arms need to be strong and extended (where the legs are straight), the hips flexible, the chest open, heart high, well-lifted, and the spine extended to hold these poses with ease and grace.

The three main yoga warrior poses are:

Warrior Pose I -- the front knee is bent, back leg straight, arms extended overhead, and the chest is turned in the same direction as the bent knee.

Warrior Pose II -- the front knee is bent, back leg straight, arms extended out to the sides in line with the legs, as shown in this photo.

Warrior Pose III -- balancing on one straight leg, with the trunk and arms extending horizontally forward and the lifted leg extending back.

We practice Virabhadrasana, not to honour the practice of violence against others, but to fight our own ignorance and ego. As spiritual warriors we also battle for what is true and just.

Why am I telling you this? Because recently I bravely battled my raspberry patch and found warrior three came in very handy indeed.

My bucket was filling quite nicely when I saw them; succulent, big red juicy raspberries just out of my reach. I wanted them…I reached and reached but couldn’t quite get to them through the brambles and thorns. I began extending my right leg behind me, and next thing I knew I was in a full warrior three plucking those berries from my extended position. Now I have a very practical application for using yoga in my life.

And yes they were worth it! Yummy and delicious.

Lessons from a Bee: Part Two

2010-08-05T15:15:00.002-06:00

Okay so the lesson from the bee continues, as I further explore the meaning of it. I have not been stung by a bee or wasp for over twenty-five years. This “incident” had to have some significance, especially as I have been outside and tending to my flowers which are filled with bees for weeks already. This bee came right into my bedroom with me and then got my attention in a big way.

Pythagoreans worshipped bees as Aphrodite's sacred creature, who in their honeycombs create perfect hexagons; their endless symmetry seemed to suggest to them an underlying order in the cosmos. Demeter is also known as the mother bee, who governs the cycles of life. Check out this website for more on bee lore.

Other folklore concludes that a single bee or bumblebee entering a house means good luck, probably in the form of money.

In the book Animal Speak by Ted Andrews I love these quotations:

“bees are long time symbols for accomplishing the impossible”

“our activities are more productive and sweet if we take time to enjoy them”

“extract the honey of life and make our lives more fertile”

Obviously I needed a message to remind me to make the most of our short summers, continue being productive and most of all bee happy now!

Lessons from a Bee: Part One

2010-07-13T11:03:00.002-06:00

I cried when it happened

Recently I was stung by a bee inside my house. It hurt and I was taken by surprise. I cried and cried…and I realized that I wasn’t really crying about the bee sting at all.

Read on for “lessons from the bee” in four parts:

Part One:

I hadn’t given myself permission to cry—sob would be more accurate—over a significant change in family life: A letting go of the past, and a huge pile of souvenirs still to go through.

You see we recently moved my widowed 84-year-old mom to live with one of my brothers. The family home of 45 years needed to be cleaned out and sold. It was filled from attic to crawlspace with stuff of every kind. My parents obviously had some depression era issues and kept everything! I mean every cupboard, closet, and dresser was filled to the brim and overflowing. I found many things (including spices, cosmetics and first aid supplies) from 30 years ago. In many cases I found two, three or even four of the same items. I came across bags of little green and yellow sponge scrubbies—they must have been a hit! You can never have too many scrubbies, can you?

My dad never met a sale he didn’t like. I remember how much he loved shopping. Any kind of shopping, including grocery shopping, was fun for my Dad. And he brought home the weirdest stuff. If it was on sale he bought it. We always laughed and thought it was funny until it came time to clean out the house. I truly never realized how bad it really was.

It hadn’t dawned on me how affected they must have been as impressionable teenagers during the Depression. Plus my Dad went into the Canadian army at a very young age for the huge salary of $0.33 per day during WW2. (The reason I know this is because I found his pay book from that time in one of the 30 odd boxes of family keepsakes to go through.) What a revelation for me. I really didn’t understand the mentality until I got to clean out a home filled with 45 years of stuff, memories, mementos, and assorted gadgets.

Gosh my Dad loved gadgets, and every home should have seven flashlights of every size in the cupboard above the fridge, which no one can reach without a chair.

Not to mention the garage filled with poisons, chemicals and toxic substances of every kind. It took five loads to get it to the eco-station and have it disposed of properly. I am aware that toxins affect our brains and contribute to dementia (which my Dad had) and yet it didn’t occur to me or any of my siblings to clean this out sooner?

It seems all of us had a scotoma. Scotoma is a great word meaning blind spot.

From Wikipedia:
The term scotoma is also used metaphorically in psychology to refer to an individual's inability to perceive personality traits in themselves that are obvious to others.

We simply could not see what was so obvious. We had a blind spot to the depth of the hoarding issue. In fact, now I can see how I too still have some lingering issues of my own.

Some of the things I keep may be questionable.

I too have a tendency to want to stock up!

“Don’t run out,” is a theme song that plays in my head.

So thanks to the bee for the sting that brought the tears, sobbing and release that needed to come and the insights that go with it.

We really are products of our environment and it takes a bit of effort to change and let go of the past, however I know it’s worth it for our long-term, sustainable happiness. I do release and let go of more and more stuff every month. I deliberately gather a few things into a box in the garage and then take it to the good will. This is wonderful habit to develop. And sometimes we need to take some time and do a more extensive clean out. This is a liberating and powerful way to make room for the new.

Elizabeth Manuel

PS. Stay tuned for part two.

It’s Always Good to Wash your Floss

2010-06-23T13:52:00.001-06:00

Tonight I found three surprises in my dryer along with our clothing.

Surprise number one was a piece of dental floss. I do believe in frugality, but I have since decided that I will not encourage the washing of floss any longer. I will know that I am still doing my best to be environmentally friendly.

Surprise number two was bits of freshly washed and dried Kleenex. Although I did my best, I’m afraid it is totally unusable, I would encourage you to discard your tissues and still feel good about yourself and recycling.

Surprise number three was a shiny clean dime. While it is always wonderful to be paid for one’s labours (and I appreciate it, I really do), I am now requesting a substantial raise for services rendered.

What’s in going on in your wash?

A Face You Can Trust?

2010-06-22T12:25:00.000-06:00

Trust is an essential component of happiness. When we trust in peoples goodness we literally have a more optimistic view of life which generates positive neural chemistry in our brain helping us to feel happier and more at peace. Which brings me back to my question. In particular, what is it about some people that predisposes us to trust them?

At the airport in Austin, Texas, today I sat down to read and wait. I was extra early for the flight and sat right beside an exit door so that I could go out and get fresh air periodically.

Within minutes a woman asked me to watch her stuff while she went to the washroom. Of course I said yes. I knew her stuff was safe with me, but how did she know that?
I questioned myself whether or not I would have done the same and the answer was no.
Was it because I had an expensive laptop in my bag? Of course I do not know the contents I was guarding, but still I wonder at her level of trust with a complete stranger. Remember I had not yet proceeded through a security check and could easily have left with her bag.

What about you? Would you leave your possessions with a complete stranger? How do you determine who you can trust? Is it in their face?

Please leave me a comment and share your thoughts.

Mastering the Unintended

2010-06-14T09:59:00.003-06:00

I generally believe in living a life of intention and choosing an intentional life. For me, this means living a life where I make choices for my highest and best good. Did you know that your brain is actually a goal-seeking mechanism?

Day to day I plan, week to week I plan, and year to year I plan. Some plans may be executed immediately, and other plans are for the long term. Last week I intended a few things in particular...and guess what? Life got in the way. Life presented some alternatives to my best laid plans. Some of the alternatives were very pleasing and provided extra laughter, sharing, and connecting with friends and family, while others allowed me to learn to practice what I teach. Happiness is a science and by going along with "what is" and not resisting the waylaying of my well intended plans, I emerge victorious and satisfied in a different way.

The Sound of Silence

2010-05-26T15:09:00.000-06:00

Recently I have become addicted to the sounds of silence. It seems we can hardly go anywhere these days without being barraged with noise: music, televisions or radios and environmental sounds seem to blast day and night. I know that music has a powerful role to play in our lives and silence has taken a back seat.

Most people are so scared of silence that as soon as they enter their car or homes the noise is turned on immediately.

I have noticed a whole different energy in the silence. It is absolute and complete in and of itself. I can think, hear and be in the silence. No distractions, just pureness.

Try some silence today, it may seem odd or weird at first, but it grows on you.
Nourish yourself with the sounds of silence. As much as I like Simon and Garfunkel's song, it seems that silence is linked to sadness.

Try linking silence to peace and oneness. I like it a lot and you may too!

Tricky!

2010-05-12T08:17:00.001-06:00

Recently I bought some organic Kiss my Face toothpaste, clearly labelled sodium lauryl sulfate free. I prefer not to use any product with SLS, a compound used as a detergent in many beauty, household, and industrial products. From wisegeek.com:

It has arguably been called one of the most dangerous ingredients in products today. Household essentials like cosmetic cleansers, bath gels, shampoos, and dishwashing detergents contain up to fifteen percent sodium lauryl sulfate. Also adapted for industrial applications, sodium lauryl sulfate is present in higher concentrations when used in floor scrubbing and degreasing solutions, due to the compound's corrosive and grease-fighting properties.

I tried it for the first time and was suprised to find how foamy it was. I read the small print on the tube (with my magnifying glass) and found out it has Sodium Lauroyl Sarconsinate, which is also suspected to be an environmental toxin.

Why companies need to add all of these toxins in organic and natural products is beyond me.

Buyer beware and read the fine print!

The Butterfly

2010-05-04T08:31:00.000-06:00

While out for a walk in the river valley I looked up and saw a butterfly fluttering about my head. I felt like it was calling me, so I stopped and extended my arm. Immediately it came down and landed on my arm. It stayed with me for almost five minutes transmitting its message.

I have known for quite some time that the butterfly is a symbol of transformation. In early Christianity, it was a symbol for the soul. In China, it was used as a symbol of conjugal bliss and joy. In the Hopi tradition, unmarried girls of the butterfly clan wore their hair in the shape of butterfly wings. To Native Americans, the butterfly is a symbol of change and joy. Transformation can mean a change in form, appearance, nature or character. Some changes are natural, such as aging, a baby growing in the womb, or the end of a life cycle. Others are sudden or traumatic like accidents or losing your job. Either way, change is opportunity for growth and re-birth. The caterpillar literally dissolves and liquefies in its cocoon during its metamorphosis. Biologists have observed that these imaginal cells start to form in a caterpillar and gradually organize within its body to create an entirely new—and completely different—organism, using the same material. When the imaginal cells reach critical mass they awaken the genetic code for a butterfly. (Deepak Chopra suggests we can do exactly that for a new humanity.) Can you imagine being tightly wrapped up and feeling your body dissolve to reveal new imaginal cells? Sounds scary to me, yet I realize that we must embrace change both small and large. Change helps us to become more patient, kinder, happier and loving. We can resist change, but that usually causes stress. We are meant to constantly grow in our human experience.

I believe that when we have direct experiences with animals, birds or insects we are receiving a message that we must pay attention too. Taking the time to be still and allowing needed insights into your awareness is a magical process.

I recognize that life is in constant change and even though I must beat my wings against the protection of my safe cocoon I am compelled to expand and grow into a bigger expression of who I really am. I simply cannot stay the same as I was.

Thank you, butterfly, for reminding me!

Huge Thanks!

2010-04-29T10:07:00.000-06:00

Yesterday I saw some wonderful acts of service that lifted my spirits and reaffirmed my belief in the goodness and kindness of humanity.

Ordinary people like you and me were out picking up litter and garbage along a boulevard, and taking the time to pick up debris that others carelessly threw down. Cleaning up a mess created by others is really an exemplary action. Most of us would walk by and say “I didn’t do it, so why should I clean it up?” or “I don’t have time to.”

I was so impressed with this commitment to provide an act of service that I wanted to write and explain to you some interesting science on the topic of happiness and the benefits of providing acts of service.

Often service is seen as synonymous with sacrifice because we are giving our time and energy. Yet service is highly advantageous to those who practice it. An increasing amount of research confirms that altruistic service provides the following benefits:

- Greater self esteem
- Increased happiness
- Better physical health
- Absence of depression

My challenge to you is to take a walk about, in your own neighbourhood, with a garbage bag in hand. You could incorporate this into your daily walk with your dog or with a friend. Pick up a bit of litter and not only will you feel great, you will have contributed to the beauty in your own community, knowing that today (and everyday) you make a positive difference.

Please enjoy this wonderful clip on joy and once again Thank YOU for contributing to our happier world.

I Got Stoned Last Night

2010-04-21T15:51:00.003-06:00

No, not that way!

I had a hot stone massage and it was a lovely way to balance and re-energize during our spring cold snap. I’m always eager to leave behind any semblance of winter—-I am a heat-seeking organism. The use of hot stone massage to relieve pains and stress is not a new therapy: It has been practiced since 1500 B.C.E by Native Americans and Europeans.

Basalt stones and polished and hardened lava stones are what is generally used in the treatments. These stones are heated in an electric roaster with water. Then these stones are gradually placed along the points that are experiencing severe pressure. This therapy relieves stress within a very short period through the calming effect that the stones can have on the mind.

Hot stone massage promotes deep muscle and tissue relaxation. Additionally it calms the psyche and alleviates stress. The therapy also helps stimulates the flow of oxygen and nutrients, helping your body to detoxify and heal. This helps create a calming effect on the central nervous system and increases vitality. The end result is a feeling of overall good health. Massage reduces tension and stress, a great thing in our fast paced, get more done now society.

Massage is not a frivolous activity. As a happiness expert I urge you to consider getting one this month. You will feel more refreshed and create more happy hormones!
Here’s to getting stoned!

A Questions from a Reader

2010-04-16T13:12:00.000-06:00

What words of encouragement would you give the girl who suffers self-doubt, low self-esteem, body hatred, self-loathing, abuse or shame?

Know that you are a unique and magnificent human being. When we are babies, we know our absolute perfection. As babies we know unconditional love for ourselves and for the world around us. As we grow up we sometimes develop erroneous beliefs about ourselves and other people. We compare ourselves to others in a very damaging way. We come to believe that we are not good enough and don't deserve love. These beliefs are false!

Because you were born, you are as worthy and deserving as any other human being on earth. Show yourself some compassion and love. It is time to open to your gifts. Each of us has talents and gifts to share; you are an individualized expression of God. To realize your gifts you must let go of old beliefs that do not serve you.

The solution is to regain control of your brain. I became a happiness expert from my own desire to feel better. I wanted to get of the darkness and move towards the light. I have been studying the Science of Happiness for ten years and I know I have made huge and amazing transformations in my own life as a result. With determination, and by using the 1% solution, you will grow new neural pathways in your brain. You will literally begin to grow new dendrites leading to new neuro-pathways and as your brain changes your life changes. Life is meant to be happy and you are meant to feel good about who and what you are. Your brain is being feed thoughts of negativity as a constant diet. Repeated thoughts like:

I'm not good enough
I'm too fat
I'm not smart enough
I really don't deserve ...
I'll never be, do have...
It's just the way I am

These thoughts grow into a mass of ugliness in our brains. We believe them, and we create even more connections to support our beliefs. We must interrupt these thoughts and take one small step after another to re-train our brains.

To transform into a person of inspiration begins with a 1% commitment to change. Making one small change will be the building block towards greater joy and happiness. Every single action you take for your positive good will lead you to feel better and the better you feel the better you want to feel. When you take small actions you assure yourself of succeeding.

I began to re-train my own brain using affirmations combined with physical exercise.

Specifically I listened to and used positive affirmations to give my brain something to focus on. I played affirmations in my car rather than listen to the radio. Over the past ten years I have used my car as a University on Wheels. You too can do this. (My Train Your Brain audio was inspired by the success I experience using affirmations.)

I know hundreds of tools to transform your life in a way that works. Today add one new sentence (affirmation) to your repertoire: every time you pee say to yourself that you are a wonderful person who deserves great love and joy. Make a list of affirmations that feel right for you and repeat them to yourself at least three times per day. Build yourself up for every positive thing you say to yourself. Acknowledge your desire and success.

Physical movement is truly a magic pill. When we move our bodies we release neurotransmitters, chemicals that help us feel more positive, alert, and happier. Any physical movement is helpful. Park one block away from you destination. Walk up a flight of stairs instead of taking the elevator. Dance, play ball, swim, do yoga. Set yourself up to win. I chose Tae Kwon Do, as my main activity to transform from a depressed woman with low self-esteem to a healthy, positive radiant woman. Tae Kwon Do kept me moving towards a more expansive idea of who I was. Now I practice yoga. Take care of your physical vessel and you will notice an immediate improvement in your outlook and self talk. If you are carrying extra weight don't expect it to fall off tomorrow. Allow yourself to release it by making small and helpful changes to your diet. Simply consuming 100 less calories per day than you usually do can equal the loss of ten pound over a year. Add some movement and you are doubling your reward. Small things do matter!

You are a worthy, valuable and important person right here and right now. You can start today to believe in yourself, surround yourself with positive and loving people. Keep believing in yourself and you will find that you feel a bit better each and every day.

With love
Elizabeth

P.S. Do you have a question or comment? I'd love to hear from you. Please leave me a comment.

G'Day!

2010-04-14T14:10:00.002-06:00

While out in the river valley on Sunday afternoon, I was practicing a type of loving kindness walking meditation: Making eye contact, and connecting with all those who crossed my path by sending loving energy out to them. My first connection came with a rousing g’day and an Australian accent. We shared a brief exchange and I came away smiling even more broadly. His g’day reminded me that it was indeed a good day and left me feeling uplifted. A few people responded to my greetings with a simple hi or hello, but the g’day really stuck with me longer. After that, “Hi” seemed rather cursory and not very meaningful.

Then I came upon a woman who appeared to be in her seventies taking a break on a very long flight of stairs. I stopped and asked if she did the stairs every day and remarked that it would be a very healthy thing to do. She replied that she was from the states and only visiting. We exchanged pleasantries for a few moments and she seemed genuinely appreciative and thanked me for taking the time to stop and chat. I felt better and more alive as I made my way back home with the realization that every person deserves loving kindness and that I can be an instrument of peace!

Price Check, Till Three

2010-03-30T11:30:00.002-06:00

I have been deliberately practicing patience for the past week. I set my intention as I begin each new time segment or experience. The urge to rush and get things done is a huge distraction to being happy now. One day I needed to run a few errands which including stopping at three different businesses and driving. I choose to be calm at every “red light” forcing me to slow down and be present. I chose to have positive interactions with each and every person I came into contact with whomever was serving me. I was feeling light and friendly, not allowing “rush” or “hurry” thoughts to control my mind. They popped up and I let them go. This was and is a very freeing feeling. The errands would take as much time as necessary and I completely disregarded for my feelings about them. The same amount of time would be spent in a good mood or a bad mood depending on MY choice. I won this round with vigilant attention to preserving my good mood and sharing positively with everyone.

At my last stop (Safeway) I got my groceries and stopped at Second Cup to get a rewarding cup of green tea. As I was waiting (yes waiting with patience) for my tea, I glanced at the line up across from me and then I heard it: “Price check, till three.” I looked at the three people waiting in the line and burst out laughing. The old me was standing in that line up. Their faces were tight, and closed. Their body language was loud and clear: they were in a bloody hurry and did not have the time or patience for this next delay! I wanted to go and tell them that since they were waiting anyway, they might as well enjoy the moment. However I thought it might not be well received…

How about you? Are you willing to be happy in this speed-crazed society of hurry-up and get it over with? You can spend more moments in peace despite your to-do list, it really is up to you!

Blessings
Elizabeth

Music Extravaganza

2010-03-22T20:20:00.002-06:00

As a happiness expert, I know the importance of music when it comes to our brains. Music affects our senses, emotions and our motor skills. We literally feel music. We may find ourselves singing, humming or tapping along whenever we hear music.

Understanding the neuroscience of music will allow us to harness its healing power. Studies have proven that patients in intensive care units heal faster and need lower doses of drugs when background music is played. Researchers have also found that music can lower blood pressure in certain situations and increases oxygen consumption by the heart.

George I of England hired George Frederick Handel to write some special music that would help him reduce stress – Water Music is the result.

The music you listen to matters to your brain and your happiness. Music is processed in the right temporal lobe and enhances spiritual experience. Music is very powerful and can enhance brain function, memory, and emotion. Music integrates the whole of the brain.

Uplifting music will help you feel great faster and maintain those positive feelings for a longer period of time.

With this in mind I invite you to join with hundreds of others to come sing, listen and shine your light as part of the Easter Musical Extravaganza. Bring your family and friends for a spectacular musical event and celebration with Emmy award winning songwriter/singer Faith Rivera. No charge and no tickets needed. Come and join us on Sunday April 4, at 10:30 am at the fabulous Winspear Centre in Edmonton.

9720 102 Avenue Northwest
Edmonton, AB T5J 4B2

I hope to see you there!

Meanwhile stay well and happy!

The lion and the lamb: Is it really true?

2010-03-10T14:08:00.000-07:00

'When March comes in like a lion, it goes out like a lamb’ goes the old folklore saying‥..The reverse, however, is also true, and the saying continues: ‘When March comes in like a lamb, it goes out like a lion,’ which does not bode well for us this year. Times 2 Mar. 26, 2002

“In like a lion out like a lamb” and “In like a lamb out like a lion” is more than just a saying. Apparently there is some truth to it, but only 40%! According to the following website, here is the results of some weather research. You can see how March started and ended the last few years:

Considering those 40% odds, I wouldn't bet that March 2010 will prove the proverb correct. Speaking of which, the phrase apparently has its origins with the constellations Leo, the lion, and Aries, the ram or lamb, according to a weather blog by B.B. McClain on the USA Today's website.

It actually has to do with the relative positions of these constellations in the sky at the beginning of the month," McClain states. "This time of year Leo is rising in the east just about sundown, while by the end of the month, the lion constellation will be high in the sky by sundown and Aries will be setting on the western horizon. Hence, in like Leo, out like Aries.

Right now I am happy that the proverb is only 40% true because March is coming in like a lamb and I’m loving it! Another week of excellent cross country skiing weather. (Dare I wish for a bit of fresh snow?)

To spring weather!

This is too funny!

2010-03-03T13:20:00.003-07:00

I shared a message recently around perception and how important it is for happiness and especially for good communication.

I was on the phone speaking to a woman I’ve never met. We were discussing tutoring for my daughter. We set up a one-hour appointment time and then I began sharing the information my daughter’s teacher had given me. I was babbling on about the workbook and reading off the chapter names that the teacher suggested be reviewed, oh yes, and these other worksheets, too. The voice on the other end of the call got very quiet. I asked if something was wrong and she said there was no way she could cover all of that material in one hour.

I burst out laughing and couldn’t stop. In my mind I had pictured them covering all this material over the next three months and preparing for final exams. In her mind, she was being expected to perform a major miracle. To her my expectations were a little out of whack!

Once I explained she began laughing too! She said she was really worried there for a minute.

What triggered your laughter today?

Are you busy?

2010-02-24T11:52:00.000-07:00

If you are too busy take a break, you need to read this message. Today I had a very busy and productive office day spent writing and getting ready for a webinar. The day flew by and the next thing I knew it was almost 5:00 pm.

I was feeling sluggish and my brain was not performing at high levels of creativity and ease. My energy was low and I still had some work to do before 7pm.

So, I got dressed in my winter coat and boots and went for a walk! “I don’t have time for a walk” is what my rational mind tried to tell me, but I knew better! I listened to my highest self—the voice that knew going for a walk would energize me and release some powerful and positive neuro-chemicals. It worked like a magic pill. I went for a twenty- minute walk and came back with new ideas and inspiration. I felt tremendously better and ready for the evening to come.

Taking a few minutes to walk outside is a scientifically proven way to feel improve your mood and your energy. If you are too busy, I urge you to go for walk and put some life back into your body!

Perception is everything!

2010-02-17T13:00:00.001-07:00

Recently I was listening to a piece of music from my teenage daughter’s iPod and I found it to be a bit disgusting and lewd. I expressed my concern to my daughter that this piece was not very appropriate and was demeaning to women.

It appears that I was mistaken! I heard the piece of music “out of context” and assumed it was about women and derogatory to boot.

My daughter laughed and laughed and then showed me the following video link.

Apparently the song is from the movie Madagascar—a cartoon with hippos. In context it is very amusing and now when I hear the song I laugh too!

Communication is a great thing. It is important to understand that your perception is through your own filters. Give people the benefit of doubt before deciding whether something or someone is right or wrong.

Ask better questions and try not to assume the worst first!

With your happiness in mind
Elizabeth

Grim determination?

2010-02-12T13:57:00.002-07:00

Recently I was thinking about the word “determination” and how often it is linked with the word grim. Grim means “Stern and admitting of no appeasement or compromise”: grim determination; grim necessity.

(http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/grim)

Determination means firmness of purpose, will or intention (Encarta world English Dictionary)

Determination and intention are very powerful words that can propel us towards a compelling and inviting future. Being determined to succeed or determined to be happy is wonderful. Determination helped me start my own business and continues to assist me with making goals and progress in a positive way.

However I would like to associate the word determination with something a little more uplifting than grim.

“Elizabeth was grimly determined to pursue the Science of Happiness” does not sound quite as uplifting as: “Elizabeth was joyfully determined to pursue the Science of Happiness” or “Elizabeth is positively determined to share happiness with the world.”

So please go ahead and be determined and cast aside the grim!

Pull Up Your Socks!

2010-02-03T13:02:00.001-07:00

Are your socks falling down? Mine aren’t! In fact, I rarely pull up my socks during the day. I don’t even think about them very often, yet I am once again confronted with an idiom. And we wonder why communication is so challenging! I understand “pulling up my socks” to mean to do better, get with it, or improve somehow. Recently a Canadian friend of mine was in the United States and said this expression to some of her American friends and they had no idea what it meant. They looked at her as if she were crazy and had to ask what she was talking about.

Once again I Googled the idiom and here is what I found:

From http://www.whatdoesthatmean.com/node/2065

Definition: To be told to pull up your socks is to be told to do a better job on something. It is a negative review of one's performance. It can also be directed at someone who generally needs to pull himself together, often to face a difficult or unpleasant task.

Usage: "If you don't pull up your socks on the Reitman contract, you'll be fired."

Explanation: Perhaps this expression is related in origin to the military slang "drop your cocks and grab your socks," which J.E. Lighter's Historical Dictionary of American Slang (Random House, 1994) identifies as nautical/military slang meaning "wake up!" (addressed to sleepers in a forecastle or barracks). Lighter has citations as early as the 1920s. Much more recently (May 13, 2005), US comedian Bill Maher used it in a monologue on his Real Time With Bill Maher program.

Trivia: This expression is unlikely to be heard or understood in the United States. US synonyms include shape up, get it together, pull yourself together, clean up your act, suck it up.

Interesting isn’t it?

Let me know if you have ever used this expression.

Bite Your Tongue

2010-01-27T14:36:00.002-07:00

Ouch! That hurt. Today I bit my tongue and suddenly I remembered an expression I heard often as a child: “Bite your tongue.” I realize that I have not heard this expression in years and I cannot recall ever saying it to my daughter. Curiosity had me Googling the expression and here is what I found. This expression is considered an idiom.

According to goenglish.com

You "bite your tongue" to keep yourself quiet and not say what you want to say. Example: "I wanted to tell her what I really thought of her dress, but I just bit my tongue." It is not always right to speak out and express what comes to mind; at times you should bite your tongue and keep quiet. Example: "Whenever that professor says something I don't like, I have to bite my tongue." When you really want to speak out, but you know you should not, it is best to just bite your tongue. Example: "Just as the coach started yelling, he slipped and fell. We all had to bite our tongues to keep from laughing."

Well I must tell you I am glad I don’t have to bite my tongue very often because it really hurt! And as a happiness expert I would prefer you do something much more beneficial: rather than bite your tongue I recommend a hearty breath!

Carpe Diem!

2010-01-20T13:26:00.000-07:00

According to Wikipedia's entry on the phrase Carpe Diem:

the phrase is part of the longer carpe diem quam minimum credula postero – "Seize the day, trusting as little as possible in the future," and the ode says that the future is unknowable, and that instead one should scale back one's hopes to a brief future, and drink one's wine. Compare with the Biblical "eat, drink and be merry, for tomorrow we die," a conflation, with emphasis on making the most of current opportunities because life is short and time is fleeting – an existential caution.

Seize a day of bliss. As a happiness expert, I understand how important it is to create more moments of joy. We all have stuff to do: schedules to adhere to, laundry, grocery lists, and, dare I say it, chores to complete.

On Saturday I tossed my schedule and lists to the wind. Yes, it’s true, I chose to have a day of bliss. The Universe was conspiring to create perfection in my human experience. The weather warmed up by almost 20 degrees, the sun came out, and--voila--perfection was at hand.

We grabbed our cross-country skis and hit the groomed trails in a beautiful park nearby. I couldn’t keep the smile off my face. I felt like I was bursting with happiness! The sun was sparkling on the snow and the ski conditions perfect—the gliding and gripping were just right; a Saturday afternoon spent in nature.

Hundreds of people were in the park that day, skating around the lake, snowshoeing across the fields, walking, skiing, and running. Some of the braver ones were even having a winter picnic. It was a day of celebration after our long cold spell. You could literally sense the joy and exuberance in the air as everyone re-connected with the healing energy and vitality of nature, proving once again how much we need nature for our happiness and well-being. This is what life is meant to be.

So go ahead when the opportunity presents itself and "seize the day" for yourself, you have my wholehearted permission!

Blessings
Elizabeth

Hypotrichosis

2010-01-13T05:31:00.002-07:00

Oh my gosh, I just found out I have hypotrichosis!

There is a prescription treatment available and the most common side effects to the medication are itchy eyes and eye redness. And the prescription may cause eyelid skin darkening and increased brown iris pigmentation. Sounds great so far, but just what the heck is hypotrichosis anyway?

“Inadequate or not enough eyelashes.”

And I thought my tube of mascara was a concession to beauty and vanity!

I am struggling to maintain my happiness with this most recent diagnosis of my inadequacies. As a happiness expert I must be diligent in giving my focus to those things for which I am grateful. In our society we are bombarded with messages that we are not enough as we are.

The constant brainwashing tells me I need bigger breasts, no matter the health risks. I am not allowed to have wrinkles and I should inject some horrific toxins in my face to plump up. Now I find I need yet another prescription to make my skimpy eyelashes longer and thicker.

I am grateful for the lashes I have and my breasts and my wrinkles—so there!

Given that I have a teenage daughter who reads a plethora of women’s magazines I worry that she will feel it necessary to buy into the drug and chemical craze to be more beautiful. Soon we will be taking so many “interventions” that we will have to take additional medicines to combat the side effects. Thank goodness my daughter does not have hypotrichosis (her lashes are naturally long and thick).

Hopefully our next generation will find a way to be happy with who and what they are, despite the barrage of advertising that insists we need drugs, surgeries, and other interventions to have a semblance of happiness.

The KEY to happiness

2010-01-06T10:13:00.002-07:00

January 6, 2010—one week into the New Year. My challenge to myself is to have more joy and happiness everyday. I intend to deliberately look for the best and be present with the moment: A tough but necessary challenge when life seems uncooperative.

Today when I entered the bank and realized the line was backed up to the entrance, I had to remind myself that this too was a moment to be savoured and enjoyed. I had to dig deep to not react with frustration or impatience. I knew I could choose to spend the ten minutes peacefully and mindfully or not; in this moment I chose happiness. Whew, close call! My first reaction was negative and definitely not joyful! I had to choose a new perspective and it worked.

Off again, this time to the mall to exchange a pair of boots. I thought to myself, "This should be a quick stop and then back on schedule." Wrong again! I did find a pair of boots in the fourth store and was ready to go when I realized that I couldn’t find my car key. I retraced my steps and asked at security and the mall information booth. Nada, nothing, no key to be found anywhere.

By this time I was definitely struggling to smile. Anger was simmering and festering under the surface. How could I have lost the key? The key is worth almost two hundred dollars because of the remote. How could I have been so stupid and careless?
How could the Universe allow this to happen? Here I was trying to have a happy day and next thing I know shit happens. I tried calling a friend to come and get me, no answer, then my cell phone battery just up and died. Why me? Left with no other option I found the bus station and the right bus and only had to wait ten minutes. I asked the driver how often the bus went back to the mall because I had to get back with my spare key. Somewhat crankily she said she had no idea. Trying to gain some sympathy points I told her what happened. Not much sympathy from her.

I sat close to the front so I could see my stop. I overheard the bus driver make a comment about the impatience of another driver and then she started sharing how a postal truck had smacked her bus mirror a little while ago and hadn’t even stopped. Now she had to do some report and was feeling a little miffed. We established a rapport and by the time I left the bus we both had a smile on our faces and empathy for one another. A chilly few blocks later (unexpected walk in -20c) I was home and holding my spare key. I walked back to the bus stop. After waiting five minutes, there was no sign of a bus. I walked to the next stop to try and stay warm—still no bus. I played "race the bus" to the next stop for six blocks…then suddenly I saw it coming and I was nowhere near the next stop! I ran and I ran, but it passed me.

Then the bus stopped and waited. Thank you, God!

The driver opened the door and said: “I saw you running. I am not in service, but get on anyway. If you want to go eastbound I can drop you in a snow drift farther up”

We had a lovely chat and I was most appreciative to get that ride towards my destination without waiting in the cold. Angels do look like bus drivers some times. Finally I was back at the mall and in my vehicle. The entire journey took an extra 98 minutes of my time and of that, 50% was spent in misery while the other 50% was in appreciation for the buses and the drivers of those buses. Aren’t I lucky that I have a car to hop into?

I am still hopeful for the safe return of my expensive car key with the microchip, but at least I still have the KEY to happiness and nothing could be more important than that.

Blessings to you
Elizabeth

Happy New Year!

2010-01-03T10:05:00.002-07:00

Happy New Year! Thank you so much for being a loyal reader of my blog and newsletter. We have so much to be thankful for and 2010 will be an amazing year!

I hope to see you in person sometime next year--and I hope that I can help you in some way! I am excited about all the exciting things coming up and having the opportunity to share happiness through my presentations and products.

I wanted to share some happiness with you today with this video and some thought provoking quotes:

Happiness can be thought, taught and caught—-but not bought.

Praise, like sunlight, helps all things to grow.

The heaviest thing I can carry is a grudge.

Failure is no more fatal than success is permanent.

Sending you many blessings for a prosperous and happy 2010!

Elizabeth

Keeping the Merry in your Christmas

2009-12-16T14:23:00.004-07:00

Christmas seems to bring an extensive “To Do” list with it. I used to stress about how I would get everything done. Now I realize that nothing on the list is a "have to do"--it really is a choice and I can choose whether or not to do something. Most of the consequences to these self-imposed lists are minimal. Oh my gosh! I didn’t get to baking that batch of shortbread! Will the world come to an end? I don’t think so. When I complete tasks with a “have to” mindset I may be infusing the tasks with negative energies including anger, resentment, or bitterness.

Why do I have to make these darn cookies when what I really want to do is watch a lovely Christmas movie or go for a walk? Mind chatter is very energetic. If I do anything (wrapping, shopping, cooking) with negative energy, I am going to infuse what I do with the very same energy. I would not want to eat a cookie or receive a gift tainted this way. This negative mindset will also produce toxic chemicals in my own body that severely reduce my own Merry Christmas.

Have is a very demanding and ornery word; it implies that I must do x or else! I have made my peace with the word have and now replace it with can, will, or choose.

Yesterday my teenage daughter wanted to build a gingerbread house; it seemed like a good idea so I went to Safeway and I picked up a gingerbread house kit. We had fun decorating it together. Building the house was definitely not on a long “to do" list to be crossed off upon completion, it was done on the spur of the merry moment! I still didn’t get to those shortbreads, but I do have a lovely gingerbread house that will indeed give me fond memories and keep more Merry in my Christmas.

Relax this Christmas season and be willing to do that which makes your heart smile!

Lessons from Camelback Mountain

2009-12-09T15:41:00.003-07:00

On my latest trip I had the wonderful experience of hiking up Camelback mountain. I have been up many mountain paths in Banff and Jasper parks that took hours and effort, but I was not prepared for Camelback I arrived at the base of the mountain as a casual tourist with my camera and token bottle of water, confident that this was going to be a similar experience. Well I was wrong. I was over halfway up when the first episode of vertigo hit. I made the mistake of looking down, way down, and there were no guide railings between me and the rocky bottom. I sat! Oh My God, what was I doing up here? Had I really signed up for this? This was barely a trail I was on. Breathing deeply I mustered up my courage and continued up, with my new mantra being “Oh my God.”

I had to stuff my water bottle into the back of my shorts and tuck my camera bag inside my shirt because this was a gripping experience...literally gripping my hands to the rock! We had to locate trail markers (painted dots on the rock face) and had to use hands and feet to crawl across and up certain sections. This was a little more than I had bargained for when I set out for a hike that day. After I returned I looked online and here is what it said:

Cholla Trail is only recommended for experienced hikers and has steep, rocky sections with drop-offs on both sides of the trail.
Trail Length: 1.5 miles 
Elevation Gain: 1,200 feet 
Difficulty: Strenuous

Probably was better that I hadn’t read that first, as it may have discouraged me. I must tell you that it was a national holiday the day I took the hike. Many ages, shapes, and sizes went up the mountain that day. Watching others and seeing them at the top helped to keep me going when I might have given up. A few seniors made it fairly high up and a family with teenagers scooted on by during one of my “what am I doing here moments.” It wasn’t until I reached the helicopter rescue landing pad that I really become aware of what I was in for. Up till then it had been a piece of cake!

Okay now for the really big learning of the day (as if that wasn’t enough), now I had to come down. I thought about the sharp drop offs and felt dizzy. How the heck was I supposed to get off this darned mountain? Once again I received excellent advice that I have counselled others with in different circumstances: Take one step at a time and keep your eye on your next step, look down at your feet and plant one secure step at a time.

That’s all we are really asked to do in life; to take the next step and not look so far into the future that we scare ourselves silly! Once we take that initial step, the next step falls into place and before we know it we are off the mountain!

"What saves a man is to take a step. Then another step."

Antoine de Saint-Exupery

"There is no one giant step that does it. It's a lot of little steps."

Peter A. Cohen

"Great results cannot be achieved at once; and we must be satisfied to advance in life as we walk, step by step."

Samuel Smiles

Coincidence? I think not!

2009-12-08T05:44:00.002-07:00

I am surprised how often I overhear people talking about coincidence happening in their lives. I too used to use this word, but now I know better. A coincidence is something that happens by chance. I believe synchronicity would be a better description; synchronicity has more of a flavour of divine guidance. I do not believe that things occur randomly anymore.

Last week I was at the airport in the boarding pass queue and as I looked back I saw a friend in the same line up. This same friend and I had been trying to get our schedules to coordinate for the last month. We had both business and friendship to catch up on. I knew immediately that this was no coincidence; we had no idea that we were going to the same destination on the same plane prior to that moment. Providence (wisdom, care and guidance believed to be provided by God) ensured that we would be able to sit together and have three uninterrupted hours to share. I was reminded of a quote I used in my first book Living with the Angels and am reminded to trust the Universe, have more faith, and most of all to allow more good to come into my life without struggle. When I allow, I am open to receive. God has more creative ways to problem solve than I. God decided to move the chess pieces of life around to handle the details and, voila, there we were!

A whole stream of events happened as a result of the decision to travel. Incidentally, my original flight was supposed to be the day before and I had to change it for an unrelated reason. Whenever you use the word coincidence, remember to check and see what the message or underlying guidance might be.

The moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too…

Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness.

Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans:

That the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too.

A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way. I learned a deep respect for one of Goethe's couplets:

Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it!

- W N Murray, of the Scottish Himalayan Mountain Expedition

It all came back to me...

2009-11-26T20:19:00.002-07:00

Airports are definitely a microcosm of life. Once again I had the opportunity to observe a real-life drama in the airport at the ticket counter. Suddenly my ears caught the gist of the conversation as the ticket agent explained to a young couple that the gentleman's passport had expired and he would not be able to travel. I had an immediate flashback to a similar incident in my own life where I missed a charter flight and could not be re-booked. I felt for the young couple as they realized this meant the end of their vacation plans. When it happened to me I reacted very badly and it took me a few days to find that “Happy Place”...of course, that is one of the many reasons why I became a Happiness Expert! I really, really needed to learn how to be happy, despite what happens, at that point of my life.

The young couple took at least twelve minutes of the ticket agent's time trying to get a refund and figure out a new plan. The line up behind me grew and grew and I looked around and saw the impatience of the people. I laughed to myself and thought that if they only knew about the human drama ahead of them and how lucky they were that it probably wouldn’t happen to them, they wouldn't be so grouchy. It was clear that we were all lined up for the same flight and yet the urge to get to the gate the fastest was apparent. I choose to focus on the humour in all of the delays and the strip show going through customs. It was hurry up and wait, hurry up and wait, line up for the plane, line up in the plane, race to be first at the baggage drop....My whole attitude was to look for and find the humour in every delay and every queue; three of us in the line-up were making comments about our first date as we kept removing layers of clothing. I truly found the whole experience enjoyable, and I really mean that! I deliberately chose to make it fun for myself and it worked. Believe me, there have been many times when travelling that I have succumbed to sighs of frustration and obvious pouting. Needless to say, I had way more happiness this go around!

How do you choose to experience your day today?

What's in your heart?

2009-11-18T13:57:00.000-07:00

Today, one of my daughter’s friends was physically bullied near their junior high school by another student. Apparently, not for the first time. My reactions to this news went from, “OMG is he okay?” to anger at the perpetrator for picking on such a nice young man.

It is with the anger that I felt that the problem starts. Let me explain:

The problem is not “out there,” the problem starts from within all of us. I am as capable of anger and violence as this bully. If I have anger in me, how can I expect to live in a peaceful world?

Anger is a strong energy that feeds upon itself and creates chaos. I may not be the one doing the actual hitting, but in the moments when I am honest with myself there have been times when I have thought about striking out or getting back at someone. There have been times when I have wanted to physically hurt someone else. You might say there is a difference between wanting to and actually doing it, and that having control to stop myself makes me a better person. The sad truth is, until I remove the anger in my own heart and send out signals of peace, I am most definitely contributing to and feeding the violence in my community and in the world at large. I am part of the problem.

I am working on becoming more and more peace-filled so that we can indeed live in a friendly world. Remember to let go of the small stuff...and it’s all small stuff!

Bless the Dalai Lama with his continuous message of peace, peace, peace. I now have his picture up on the wall of my office to remind me that it is possible and it does begin with me!

What’s in your heart?

Food of the Gods!

2009-11-11T21:08:00.002-07:00

Yummy, Yummy, and Yummy! I just ate another delicious pomegranate. Yes, it cost $2.99, but it was worth every cent! I truly believe we must enjoy the fruits of the season as they arrive. The juice and the tart sweetness was mouth watering and almost orgasmic. I almost want to eat another one right now!

I was on the phone with a friend as I was opening my pomegranate and she told me pomegranates were a symbol of prosperity. I thought that idea was interesting and looked it up online. Here is what I found out:

The pomegranate's rustic beauty has long been an inspiration for poets, writers, painters and sculptors. The Bible and writings of Homer mention pomegranates. Ancient myths cite this fruit as favored by the gods. Pomegranates, bursting with seeds, symbolize fertility in Chinese, Greek, Persian, Roman and Hebrew lore. They symbolize hope in Christian art. According to Jewish tradition, pomegranates are a symbol of prosperity.
California Pomegranates

As I eat this nutritious fruit, I love contemplating the idea that I will prosper!

The pomegranate was a magical fruit in Greek mythology, and was associated with three Gods: Demeter the Goddess of Fertility, Aphrodite the Goddess of Beauty, and Hera the Mother of the Gods. In ancient Athens, at the time of the ceremonies (the “Thesmoforia”) honoring these three Gods, Athenians ate pomegranates in order to gain fertility and prosperity. Aphrodite, was according to myth the first to plant the pomegranate tree, on Cyprus. Hera, is linked most strongly to the fruit in Greek mythology, as she was the Goddess of the home, and the protector of marriage and childbirth. In her temple in Argos there was a golden statue of the Goddess, and in her right hand she held a pomegranate, signifying her connection with this source of fecundity and abundance.

Visit this great website for even more fascinating information about pomegranates.

Pomegranates are also excellent for your health and vitality, so go ahead enjoy a pomegranate and celebrate your abundance today!

Ho’oponopono

2009-11-04T21:00:00.002-07:00

Ho’oponopono is a Hawaiian healing technique introduced to mainland North American culture by Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. Dr. Len is therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients–without ever seeing any of them! The story is amazing and too long to note in this blog, however the practice can be used by anyone wanting to create more peace in their life.

Incorporating Ho’oponopono into your daily life can be quite simple. Ho’oponopono consists of four phrases repeated in any order in response to any situation that may upset you.

I love you
Please forgive me
Thank you
I’m sorry

Keep repeating silently or aloud while driving, flying, waiting, walking or sitting. It is a beautiful process that will open you to receive great gifts.

When I first started practicing ho'oponopono I thought I was supposed to be asking forgiveness from a person and I found this hard to swallow. During difficult times with my ex husband, I would say please forgive me and would be filled with resentment or anger. Why was I asking him to forgive me when he should be asking me to forgive him?

My understanding about the process has deepened to an extent that I now know it is all about ME! I am at cause for everything in my life. I am not speaking to a person, rather I am speaking to The Source, or One power, God, Infinite Intelligence. I am speaking directly to the Source, asking the Source to forgive me for my lack of consciousness: “I am sorry for anything I may have said or done that has caused pain. I love you my creator. Thank you for taking care of me.”

There is, of course, lots more to learn and I am only beginning my journey, but I strongly urge you to try this healing method. For more information check out Dr. Joe Vitale’s book entitled Zero Limits and let me know how it goes. I would love to hear your success stories.

Travelling stress free and staying happy en route!

2009-11-02T06:37:00.002-07:00

Recently I have been travelling around Canada presenting on my favourite topic:“The Science of Happiness.” If you have been in an airport recently you may have noticed that airports do not seem to be filled with happy travellers. On one of my trips, I arrived on time for my flight and was already at the gate when the news came--our flight would be delayed by 75 minutes. Ok, not what I was hoping for, but I was prepared to wait with a good book. I sat back to read and enjoy this gift of uninterrupted leisure time. The next announcement had the flight now delayed by 2 hours and 15 minutes. Now my original flight was leaving much later than another flight by the same airline. I got in line behind ten people in the hopes of getting on the earlier flight. Two men ahead of me spent the 30-minute wait time complaining and moaning. “Why didn’t they open up another service desk?” “Why was this taking so long?” “This is ridiculous!” blah, blah, blah! I know that they were producing stress hormones and creating an unhealthy internal climate in their bodies. These stress hormones will lead to other illness and disease if allowed to increase.

As I observed the language, behaviours, and conversations around me, I thought it is no wonder we have so much illness in our society. If only people knew how much damage they were doing biochemically, maybe they would change their responses to things outside their control. We have full power over our attitudes and actions in response to what happens. Yes, in my case it meant I still missed a lovely family dinner that I had hoped to be home for, but what good would it do to get myself worked up and in a state of anger? I would only hurt my own chance of being happy in the moment. I stayed in the line for the full 30 minutes practicing ho’oponopono. The immediate response to using ho'oponopono is a sense of peace and physical relaxation; it's a terrific payoff, and using ho'oponopono would be well worth it if this were the only benefit. Anyway, I did get the second last seat on the earlier flight and my baggage was transferred properly much to my delight! Additionally, I saved myself 30 minutes of undue stress and aggravation by not getting caught up in the negative chatter around me. I was able to turn a long wait into productive and peace-filled time. Every one benefits from this proactive solution and it beats the heck out of anxious stress-filled waiting time.

Stay tuned for more detail on ho’oponopono in the next post.

It happened again...

2009-10-25T12:39:00.001-06:00

It happened again! The intelligent Universe will keep providing lessons until I really learn them. As most of you are aware, I speak on the topic of Happiness and how to really live with inner peace and contentment. I teach strategies for making the best of every day, including the humdrum and mundane errands that are a part of all of our lives.

One morning last week I needed to go to the grocery store and replenish our dwindling supplies. To say the least, I was not in a “happy” frame of mind as I left my home. One block later I regained my sense of gratitude very, very quickly. Here I was comfortably ensconced in my warm, luxurious vehicle listening to lovely music, driving along, but still feeling crabby because I didn’t want to go grocery shopping. “Poor, poor pitiful me!” Then I saw them: a couple, both clearly physically challenged, walking with heavy bags of groceries. I saw the women stop and rest, putting the bags on the sidewalk for a few seconds and then heft them up again. I calculated they must have already walked four blocks from the nearest Safeway store. I stopped and gave them a ride (only two more blocks to their home) and wished I had been able to help them more. I felt so lucky to have my full physical capacity and my vehicle, I went into a complete state of gratitude that I did not have to walk or use the bus to get groceries. I shifted my attitude immediately thanks to the Universe providing me this wake up call.

How are you responding to your everyday tasks? Remember to be grateful for all that you are able to do with ease and grace. Knowing that your time is a valuable resource and that your attitude of gratitude during that time will supply you with peace and make whatever you are doing bliss filled!

Seduction

2009-10-16T06:52:00.002-06:00

Two days after leaving the “Circle of Love” I found myself in Las Vegas. At first it seemed like a rude awakening. I felt like I was in the midst of chaos: loud, smoke-filled rooms; lots of emphasis on sexuality; and little to no love. I found myself becoming indignant that those “poor girls” had to wear those ridiculous, skimpy little outfits while serving drinks to gamblers. I really had to dig deep to put away my judgments and bless this part of humanity. I felt that it was wrong to make young girls and women parade around in this degrading way. Once again I came to realize that I am part of a mosaic and I can bring my love and peace with me wherever I may travel. I recognized that each person has the right to make their own choices and to live life as they choose. I found the waitresses in the restaurants to be super friendly and cheerful, serving me not only food, but smiles and camaraderie.

In the evening, as we sat in the lounge listening to the band play, I watched a man in his seventies “pick up” and dance with a girl who appeared to be in her twenties. I was able to watch them and noticed my judgments. “He’s too old for her,” “She’s really drunk,” “How can she let him touch her like that,” and so on. By the second night I was able to see it all as a comedic movie. I realized that everyone else was there for the same reason I was — to have fun and experience the Vegas lifestyle. It was not for me to decide how they should enjoy their time.

As I lounged by the pool and “people watched” I noticed the human spirit in action. I saw many actions of kindness and love demonstrated. I heard laughter and joy being expressed and I knew that love was present, even if it was hidden under the veneer of superficiality.

By the third day I was completely seduced by the easygoing, relaxed, and carefree environment. My biggest concern was getting up by eleven to make it in time for the breakfast special! I no longer needed to judge anything or anyone as right or wrong. We were all ingredients in the Vegas experience, an eclectic yet tasty dish!

Transcendence

2009-10-06T17:56:00.002-06:00

The trip continued from Victoria to Kelowna. It was a spiritual journey—a full week immersion called the Circle of Love Gathering. We use the word “love” in many ways: “I love chocolate,” “ I love to sing,” “ I love my children,” etc., but rarely do we focus our love on the most important person of all: ourselves. When we hold unconditional love for ourselves and share that love with others, everyone blossoms in radiant colour. Each person is a unique, wonderful expression of God and is accepted “as is” in all their humanness.

As a spiritual teacher and leader I used to be under the mistaken impression that I needed to “have it all together” all the time. I thought I was not allowed show a lack of faith or trust in the Universe. Given that I have had such profound experiences where I was inspired beyond measure with a deep connection with the divine that is truly magical you would think that once I would never doubt myself again.

I wish it was so simple. It seems I need constant reassurance and reminders as I continue to trust the voice of my intuition; the voice of inspiration beckoning me to an ever higher place of serenity and peace. Things may challenge me and I succumb to an illusion of lack or limitation, and I forget momentarily that I am held in the arms of Grace. When I need to refill my love tank I attend gatherings such as the Circle of Love Gathering, to remind me of my own value and to offer my unconditional love to other like-minded souls who have gathered with one purpose in mind: to “crack open” and let love in. I set out on these trips in order to pour balm on any wounds or heal any misconceptions that may have crept in to my consciousness.

It is my life’s purpose to help others think with their hearts rather than their heads. I am a perpetual student of the spirit within. I urge you to listen to your own hearts and listen to the whispers of spirit that beckon with healing and wonder. You too can live an inspired and joy-filled life. Love is our natural state of being, when we are not filled with fears and doubts. Unconditionally loving yourself “as is” right now, with all your faults and seeming imperfections is the best thing that you can do.

Why love?

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer; no disease that enough love will not heal; no gulf that enough love will not bridge; no wall that enough love will not throw down; no sin that enough love will not redeem. It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble, how hopeless the outlook, how muddled the tangle, how great the mistake, a sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.

- Emmet Fox

The Harbour Hustle

2009-09-23T08:51:00.000-06:00

Ah, the harbour! The mass of humanity congregating along Victoria's waterfront. The buskers were all out dazzling the visitors with their talents. We sat and enjoyed some entertainment tapping and clapping to the music in no hurry to be anywhere else. As we were eating lunch on an outdoor patio facing the inner harbour we were able to watch a busker who was “frozen” in her copper-coloured costume, looking exactly like a bronze statue. Appearing as nothing more than a statue to many of the unsuspecting passersby, one woman screamed and jumped as the busker moved just as she approached. I laughed out loud at the look on the poor woman’s face.

The harbour was a hive of activity emitting a constant thrum as the boats maneuvered in and out. We walked around until we reached the houseboats where people live in homes on the water. My mind was busy trying to imagine life here day in and day out. There was a certain exuberance in the air that was contagious, as though we were no longer isolated individuals but were definitely part of this mosaic. Enjoying a delicious ice-cream sitting on the dock in the bay reminded me of the song by Otis Redding…sitting on the dock of the bay, watching the tide roll away….Nothing felt more important at that particular moment other than to sit and enjoy.

Travelling across the bay on the little ferry boats gives you another perspective of the harbour and give me glimpses of a lifestyle very different than mine. Along our walk we came across some young men strapping into a parachute contraption and then jumping off a cliff and flying around in the winds over the water. It was thrilling to watch and engaged me for quite some time. I could imagine the freedom they felt while flying about, yet the thought of participating in it was a bit over my comfort zone.

While I found the harbour fascinating in its own way, the hustle and bustle does not call to me in the same way as the wild ocean or the serenity of the gardens. Knowing that there is indeed something for everyone on this planet is such a joy. Every personality can find a niche. The vibrancy and richness of travel changes me as a person. I do feel like I understand life more. I have gained new insights and once again decided what works best for me. Compare and contrast. One particular lifestyle is no better than another; it is all personal preference. Finding our preferences while respecting and appreciating another way of life is the true key to happiness.

Ah, the joys of travel!

Picturesque

2009-09-16T21:18:00.002-06:00

While I was in Victoria, I went on a walking tour of bed and breakfasts that run out of 100-year-old Victorian-era homes. It was peace-filled, serene, and quite the opposite of the ocean’s roar. The craftsmanship, woodwork, and artistry of the homes are amazing.

Flowers and gardens abound in Victoria and, my, what a visual feast! I was so impressed by the beauty of it all. As research has proven, being amidst nature and flowers is extremely beneficial for health and well-being. I can certainly attest to that, as the flowers whispered to me of love, inspired me with their profound beauty, and dazzled me with the richness of their colour. The abundance and variety of blooms was breathtaking. Recognizing the beauty of each unique blossom is an important lesson; no one flower can really be better than another. Although I may have personal favourites, each flower adds its own personality to an arrangement and contributes to the beauty of the whole. Like the flowers, human beings are each unique and wondrous. As with flowers, I resonate with some humans more than others, but I can feel love, kindness, and compassion towards all.

I felt like I was some kind of princess touring the gardens and homes. I could easily imagine myself living in one of those stately Victorian homes that were made for entertaining and build to last. Wainscotting, crown molding, and stairways that could have been from heaven! One home had a double staircase with gleaming hardwood and a beautiful piece of carpet running up the centre. I imagined seeing myself dressed in an elegant gown and walking down the stairs to the parlor or drawing room to greet my guests or going up the stairs while touching the smooth oak handrail to retire for the night in my lavish, romantic room. These majestic homes had attention to detail on the ceilings and genuine craftsmanship that seems rare in modern homes.

I was positively glowing during my stay. I needed no other entertainment other than ogling the flowers and soaking up the warm ambiance. The rooms of these Victorian homes are deliciously designated for comfort and relaxation. One of my favourite things is the claw foot tubs designed for a leisurely baths. While on my trip I made sure that I indulged myself in a delicious tub of hot steamy water with a cup of fragrant peppermint tea. Oh the delights! Yes, Victoria is enchanting!

Enchanting

2009-09-10T20:12:00.001-06:00

Victoria, British Columbia, caught my heart this summer. I found it to be a magical and enchanting visit. I spent hours walking and delighting in the myriad of colour, the architecture, and the magnificence of the ocean. For me, there are three quintessential Victorias: the open ruggedness and vastness of the ocean; the picturesque beauty of the Victorian era homes; and the hustle and bustle of the harbour.

While walking along the ocean and staring into eternity I realized I am like a drop of water. I am seemingly small and insignificant yet an integral part of the mosaic. Experiencing the ocean is a meditative experience for me. The waves come and go as my breath goes in and out. I am always in awe of the ocean. I love the salty, tangy, fishy smell, the crash of the waves, the cacophony of the birds, the invigorating winds. Each of these things permeate and penetrate my senses. I respond at a soul level, feeling my oneness with the elements and the cosmos. I feel more alive, more loving, more joy-filled. When visiting the ocean I am replete and feel satiated in a way I haven’t been during my landlocked winter. I know my raison d'être. I am re-birthed, renewed, and refreshed. This is the power of the ocean—the source of all life. The salt water of the ocean matches that in our own bodies. Salt water helps our cells recharge, which is a feeling I can relate to. How glorious it is!

Stay tuned for the next post on the picturesque beauty…

Elizabeth

Enchanting, Transcendental and Seductive

2009-09-03T07:23:00.000-06:00

I spent the month of August travelling around Canada and the U.S. Now I find it’s already September and the first day back to school for many parents and children. I’d like to take a bit of time to reflect and honour my journey of life. The change of season seems a perfect opportunity to see where my life has taken me over the previous months; in this way the entire year does not pass unnoticed. I engage in grandiose plans every spring. This year I planned to build an archway under the sunflowers, re-stain the deck, make everything picture perfect, etc., etc. Now it is September 3rd and some things happened while others did not. Guess what? It is all perfect. Acceptance and being happy in the moment, right now, is my present to myself.

I love the long lazy days of summer, the seemingly endless light, the flowers, the sounds of children playing, dogs barking in the neighbourhood, the magnificent canopy of trees along the boulevard, the birdsongs and squirrel chatter. My neighbourhood is wonderful and I appreciate sitting on my west-facing deck enjoying the warm weather. Home sweet home—peaceful, familiar and comfortable—yet the thrill of new places and spaces calls and beckons me. Different rhythms, moods and routines are part of the excitement of travel. What is considered normal or ordinary in one particular environment is extraordinary to the traveller and visitor. This summer I once again realized how much I take for granted in my own home and city. I sometimes forget to appreciate the spectacular river valley or the wonderful festivals that we are renowned for. Coming home from my various sojourns has been a joy between the wonders of travel.

I am changed from who I was at the beginning of the summer. I’m more read, more travelled, a few months older and, possibly, wiser! I have been challenged, learned new things, and become more accepting of others and myself.

And thus the journey continues. The next few posts will contain inspirations, insights and lessons learned about my three trips which I will call: Enchanting, Transcendental and Seductive. Stay tuned for more and meanwhile be blessed!

Elizabeth

Life really is a peach!

2009-08-26T15:56:00.002-06:00

I had a wonderful visit in the Okanagan last week. The stunning vistas of Lake Okanagan surrounded by grape fields, wineries, and fruit trees were lovely. My eyes certainly beheld the beauty before me. Then came the peaches: delicious, fresh, abundant and unbelievably juicy. What a taste and flavour sensation—my mouth and tongue were in bliss. I had to wash a few extra shirts, as the peach juice dripped down the front time and time again.

I really took the opportunity to savour and enjoy the peaches because I know that it will be a year before I will see another fresh crop of peaches. Thinking about the peaches even now gets my mouth salivating for the next bite; it brings a smile to my face and I can experience bliss over and over.

Note to self: Savour the moment! Enjoy what is abundant and present in your experience right now. I can’t save the fresh peaches for the future…they will go rotten. Remember to get the most out of life. Take a big bite and dive in. After the peaches come the pomegranates. Everything has a time and season; take pleasure in the here and now, and tomorrow will bring a new fruit and a new season to revel in.

I’m juiced up, what about you?

Happiness is a clothesline?

2009-08-13T14:40:00.004-06:00

I admit it: I have a clothesline and I love it! I love the whole idea of hanging my clothes, especially sheets, on the line and letting the sun and wind take care of the drying. When I take fresh clothes off the line, I can’t stop myself from sticking my nose in them and smelling that sweet and wonderfully intoxicating essence of nature. Mmmmmm. I’m saving energy and helping my clothes last longer! (All that lint from the dryer is fabric from your clothing.) In fact, I find the strong smells of detergents and dryer sheets to be incredibly offensive. If you are using a dryer, you may want to switch to natural static sheets and dryer balls to keep your clothing static free and fluffy. These can be found in most health food or organic stores. The chemicals in dryer sheets and other similar items are not healthy for you. In my neighbourhood I see only one other clothesline and it belongs to my 93-year-old neighbour. Seems like the clothesline has come to represent an archaic way of life and is no longer commonplace.

Recently, however, I discovered otherwise. My sister returned from a lovely trip to Newfoundland and during her slide show, what do you think I saw? Incredible pictures of saltbox houses, scenic ocean views, gardens, and clotheslines everywhere! How picturesque! Apparently clotheslines are very popular in Newfoundland and everyone hangs their things out on the line—it really does make for a pretty picture! Apparently I will have to move to Newfoundland to fit in!

What’s your take on the clothesline? Are you drawn to them or not? Do you love those ocean pictures of homes with clothes flapping cheerily in the breeze? Do clotheslines bring any smiles or memories to you?

Let me know your feelings. Do you find happiness in a clothesline?

Elizabeth

Picture Perfect!

2009-08-11T08:52:00.000-06:00

Recently I went on a four-night vacation escape taking a break from normal routines and habits. It was a lovely and rejuvenating experience. I made a point of not being in a hurry, having no set agenda and allowing the days to unfold as each moment came and went. It was a luxurious feeling, one that I would like to replicate as I come back to “normal”. The lesson for me is that I do have the power to slow down, breathe and enjoy my day to day activities. I don’t need to get wound up over a traffic delay, a slow service restaurant, unexpected weather or any other conditions.

During this trip we experienced lost luggage, transportation delays and other minor inconveniences yet, I purposefully remained calm, tranquil and unperturbed. It was profound to realize how much control I do have over my response to what happens. I intend to keep this in mind as I re-enter my life.

My choice is to be happy and to experience the best of what life has to offer with a new attitude of allowing what is currently happening without the struggle.

Today I intend to move peacefully and even though I may have an “agenda” I know I am flexible to what shows up.

Blessings,

Elizabeth

Green is good for your well-being!

2009-07-08T13:40:00.004-06:00

Finally! Here in my home town of Edmonton, the rain we so needed has finally begun to fall.

I love seeing the earth take a big drink and become lush and even greener right before my eyes. I plan on going for a fresh smelling walk as soon as I am finished this blog!

I really enjoy the crispness and depth of the air after a wonderful rain. It sure does invigorate the senses! Getting to the river valley is a driving need for me. I love spending time near the water and being amongst the trees. I feel a total sense of well being when I am there and science backs this up as being imperative for our total health and happiness.

Ecopsychology is a new field of study where researchers feel that de-natured environments or prolonged separation from nature can result in psychological problems such as depression. Ecopsychology maintains that we have a genetic need to connect with nature. It provides deep psychological and aesthetic satisfaction. You and your body are part of nature and need to be outside.

Ecotherapy involves getting outdoors and getting active in a green environment as a way of boosting mental well being. Whether it's taking regular walks in the park, flying a kite or participating in a gardening therapy project, green exercise is proven to have huge benefits for mental health.

So get yourself outside to a park, lake or green space today and try some Ecotherapy to increase your happiness!

Enjoy!

Elizabeth

Happy Canada Day

2009-07-02T08:20:00.003-06:00

Wow! I can't believe that July here already! As Canadians celebrated our country’s birthday, I invite to you celebrate the first half of the year. Celebrating who we are and our successes to date help us to find more joy and meaning in our lives. So often what we have accomplished or achieved goes unrecognized as we quickly move onto the next thing.

Today, I encourage you to make a list of anything you felt proud, confident, successful or happy about since January. Reflect on these things and really get into the feelings of them. Take ownership of the good things in your life and find ways to celebrate more frequently. Make Canada Day your half-year marker to see what dreams you have made come true and how fabulous your life truly is.

After you have made your feel good list, now I would like you to get a new sheet of paper and write down what you would like to be, do or have over the next six months. This way you will continue to be inspired and prioritize your life according to what is on your six- month list. Most of us forget to update and re negotiate our goals through out the year. Your priorities and needs may have changed substantially since the beginning of Jan when we typically make those new-year resolutions.

I hope you had a wonderful Canada Day!

Elizabeth

Weeding the garden

2009-06-18T08:50:00.001-06:00

Today I spent an hour pulling weeds from the garden. I have often referred to my mind as a garden that grows what I seed, water, and nurture. My mind sometimes grows tenacious and nasty weeds that need no help whatsoever to grow!

As I was pulling the weeds I became aware of my thinking. I had a negative encounter with a person this week and I found my mind going over the event. I was making up conversations in my head about the next time I have the chance to speak to this person. Most of it was pure manure. It was neither productive nor helpful to think these thoughts. I made a conscious decision to challenge and change my thinking. Remembering that I have zero control over any other person period! I do however have control over myself, and my garden of happiness. I imagined as I pulled the weeds that I was literally pulling the negative thoughts out of head. I made myself focus on other positive and mood lifting thoughts. I purposefully decided to fertilize better thoughts; which lead to better feelings.

As my garden became weed free so did my mind! I know some weeds will re-appear and I will challenge both the physical and mental weeds with persistence. It is my choice to be happier and more at peace in every possible moment.

Remember we do have control over ourselves and can stop and re-focus our minds in a new more prosperous direction in each moment! Why let some one or something affect you in a negative way long after the “event” is finished?

I am now nurturing and watering my loving thoughts and yes I do feel great!

Summer Greetings!

2009-06-15T09:07:00.000-06:00

As summer unfolds before us, I urge you to give yourself time to relax and enjoy your everyday life. Many of us spend more time looking forward to and planning a one or two week vacation than we do in planning our "ordinary" lives. As if one or two short weeks will be a panacea for 50 weeks of regular living.

Life is only worth living when we experience the gifts of vacations in delicious moments, day in and day out. Qualities like freedom, play and joy do not depend on external conditions. They can be realized any time, if we open to their presence right now.

Remember that there will always be something on your "to do" list. This list will never be finished or complete so why not add the following to your list:
· Read a great book
· Go for a beautiful walk
· Have a picnic in the park
· Enjoy a leisurely tea in your own yard and listen to the birds sing
· Take in a play or some live entertainment

Life will not miraculously change when your next goal is attained. You'll still chop wood and carry water, or maybe you'll still pay bills and sometimes wonder where the money is going to come from.

In my coaching program we spend a significant amount of time on goals and goal setting, ensuring that we are including goals that increase our joy factor and add to our quality of life. Re-visit your goals today and include some "just for fun" goals.

The difference between living in joy and existing comes in the attitude with which you do the things on your "list". When true happiness and fulfillment is reached, you'll learn that the journey is the adventure, the excitement and the fun of life.

Live in JOY!

Elizabeth

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Why is it so hard for us to be optimistic?

2009-06-04T06:54:00.002-06:00

The words of Martin Seligman author of Learned Optimism, gives us a psychological view of pessimism.

"We are animals of the Pleistocene, the epoch of the ice ages. Our emotional makeup has most recently been shaped by one hundred thousand years of climatic catastrophe: waves of cold and heat; drought and flood; plenty and sudden famine. Those who survived may have done so because they had the capacity to worry incessantly about the future, to see sunny days as mere prelude to a harsh winter, to brood. We have inherited these ancestors' brains, and therefore their capacity to see the cloud rather than the silver lining."

The survival value of pessimism; pessimism would have lent an edge in the struggle to survive!
So now we know why; now what?

Optimism comes from the latin words meaning "highest" or "best" and as Larry Dossey MD, author of Healing Words says:

"Linking optimism and the Absolute or Divine, is not hyperbole, the connection is natural. Our connectedness with the Absolute implies that we share qualities with it"

I know and believe this to be true. Optimism means that we know there is a power for good in this Universe. A loving omnipresent energy that empowers and sustains us.

To be optimistic is to embrace and find meaning and value everyday. Remind yourself that life is found in the "ordinariness" of everyday. Slowing down and making time to enjoy what is showing up today, right now is a great way to embrace optimism. Knowing that today is our gift and looking forward to the future because we are blessed enough to have one.

Holding an optimistic attitude gives us the extra edge we need to thrive. The world has seen many wars, famines and depressions and the resiliency of the human spirit depends upon optimism or else the human race would die out!

Choose a bit of optimism today and experience an altered state of reality.

Elizabeth

the positive power of sunlight and vitamin D

2009-05-27T12:58:00.002-06:00

In 2006, the American Cancer Society and the Canadian Cancer Society joined health officials in Australia in finally recognizing that individuals need some ultraviolet light exposure in order to be healthy, and that sun avoidance may be contributing to vitamin D deficiency.

Why did this acknowledgement take so long? The truth about sun exposure is abstract and complicated — the right level of exposure for one person may not be right for another person.

Heredity, skin type, and many other factors make it a different equation for everyone. But one truth is universal: we all need sun exposure and UV light in order to survive. Exposure to UVB from sunshine is the body’s natural way to produce vitamin D, accounting for 90 percent of vitamin D production. Dietary “supplements” are just that: supplemental ways to produce vitamin D. The healing power of the sun was acknowledged by ancient civilizations long before we had identified UV rays. It regulates our moods and sets our internal clocks. Exposure to sunshine can alleviate tiredness, increase libido and alertness, and help to ease depression.

Exposure to UVB rays is also needed for the synthesis of vitamin D, which is crucial for building and maintaining strong bones. In addition, recent research has suggested that higher levels of vitamin D might help to protect the body from colon, breast, prostate and other cancers.

Light also influences the concentration of serotonin, which is known to modulate mood, emotion, sleep and appetite and thus is implicated in the control of numerous behavioral and physiological functions. Decreased serotonin- neuro transmission seems to play a key role in the aetiology of depression. Emotional imbalance and lack of drive due to lack of sufficient sunlight can be observed in people suffering from winter blues. In my next book I will be addressing this seasonal disorder meanwhile enjoy the spring weather and longer light filled days.

It’s well documented that light can have a profound effect on our well-being that’s why we are generally more energetic, alert, productive and happy on bright, sunny days, and more likely to feel tired and drained on cloudy or rainy days.

I have recently been spending quite a few hours outside and feel energized and cheerful. My RX for you is to get some sunshine. If you work in an office, use your coffee and lunch breaks to get outside! You will feel better immediately and be more productive at work.

Awareness of toxins can help create a healthy, happy body!

2009-05-20T04:16:00.003-06:00

“We are now into the fourth generation of people exposed to toxic chemicals from before conception through to adulthood," writes noted health analyst Theo Colborn in the foreword to Slow Death by Rubber Duck: How the Toxic Chemistry of Everyday Life Affects our Health.

Its authors, Canadian environmental activists Rick Smith and Bruce Lourie, describe our bodies as sponges soaking in harmful, petrochemical derivatives that leach out of common household objects - everything from the upholstered sofa and TV set to the popcorn bag and garden hose.

In one example, the authors estimate that by the time the average woman grabs her morning coffee, she has applied 126 chemicals in 12 products to her face, body and hair.
They write: "Pollution is now so pervasive that it's become a marinade in which we all bathe every day."

Heath and happiness are intricately linked and the less toxins and chemicals we use the better.

In my home and for the health of my family, I have switched to natural cleaning products, laundry detergent, toothpaste and hair products. Specifically in toothpaste and shampoo, I will only buy those that do not contain sodium lauryl sulfate. So why is a dangerous chemical like sodium lauryl sulfate used in our soaps and shampoos?

The answer is simple - it is cheap. The sodium lauryl sulfate found in our soaps is exactly the same as you would find in a car wash or even a garage, where it is used to degrease car engines.
In the same way as it dissolves the grease on car engines, sodium lauryl sulfate also dissolves the oils on your skin, which can cause a drying effect. It is also well documented that it denatures skin proteins, which causes not only irritation, but also allows environmental contaminants easier access to the lower, sensitive layers of the skin.

Perhaps most worryingly, SLS is also absorbed into the body from skin application. Once it has been absorbed, one of the main effects of sodium lauryl sulfate is to mimic the activity of the hormone Oestrogen. This has many health implications and may be responsible for a variety of health problems from PMS and Menopausal symptoms to dropping male fertility and increasing female cancers such as breast cancer, where oestrogen levels are known to be involved.

What a huge difference one simple change can make. I feel better since switching and every positive change provides more protection. Natural products are readily available but don’t have the huge advertising budget of the more common brands. Take a stand today and read your labels, choose wisely and you will notice a positive difference in a very short time.

In the grocery store I choke when I walk through the cleaning aisle, the chemicals seem overwhelming and my body screams “no”!

Listen to your body's voice and make some simple changes today for your own longevity and happiness.

Finding happiness even in a rough economy

2009-05-12T16:45:00.001-06:00

Here's a brilliant quote I found from a recent New York Times editorial:

If there is something about this economy to be cheerful about -something real -I wish someone would let me know.

As a Happiness Expert, I would like to reply to this editorial and to all who share this sentiment. The economy does not have any power to make you happy or unhappy. You always have a choice in each moment.

Perhaps the economy has forced you to re-think what you are really passionate about and make some changes that you otherwise may not have.

Perhaps the economy has helped you re-discover your strengths and become the person you were meant to be.

Being happy is not a matter of circumstance but rather of individual accountability. It is not about what happens to you; rather it is what you do with what happens.

When you look back over time and history you will see there have always been hard times, ups and downs, rises and falls. In each and every time there are those who focus on possibilities and become inspirations to everyone else.

New inventions are created, new thinking patterns allow us to make profound positive changes.

Today I invite you to be the inspiration for those around you, to focus on the positive and help discover and invent new ways of doing things.

Be cheerful because you are alive and filled with opportunities to re-create a vibrant and happy life in this moment.

Maximize your strengths

2009-05-05T14:05:00.002-06:00

Successful and prosperous people spend their time maximizing their strengths, not focusing on their weaknesses. Your strengths are like levers in your life. They help make things easier to move along.

With the element of time being a consideration for most humans; take a look at how you maximize the one thing that is the same for every person, the number of hours in a day!

Successful people spend 80% of their time in their 'strength zone'.

I have realized since opening my own business I have a few things I am not so great at. I learned to hire to my weakness and focus on what I do well. For instance I am not particularly organized and when I need help I hire a professional organizer to come in and get me back on track.

I am not what you would call a detail person, especially when it comes to punctuation, it would take me many hours to edit my book and I would probably still miss a lot of errors, so I hire an editor whose strength is in spotting the details in one quarter of the time it would take me. If you spend 80% of your time in areas that you were strong in and enjoyed, how would you feel about your life? My guess is that you would have a huge smile on your face.If you're thinking, "Well Elizabeth " I don't have any strengths," or "I don’t know what my strengths are".

Stop that nonsense now. Now! Tell your inner critic to go away. You would not be reading this if you didn't know you have strengths that can be cultivated, developed and profited from. Focus on your top 1-3 strengths everyday.

I found mine and developed a business I am passionate about which includes: Reading, writing and speaking;these are the ways I help you to flourish! Ask yourself - if I was going to spend 1% more time in areas I'm good at or enjoy doing, what actions can I take now?

I believe in you. I believe your strengths can make a huge difference in others' lives. Are you ready to tap into them, invest more time there, and go for what you want to make your life happier and more fulfilling?

Change your attitude and change your life!

2009-05-01T08:05:00.001-06:00

With a change in your attitude you can truly change your life!

In my Principles of Prosperity seminar I talk about attitudes and how they contribute to your overall experience of life. The bottom line is that our success or failure begins and ends with our attitudes and feelings about ourselves. What we believe determines our results. Think big and prosperous and you’ll get big, prosperous results. Think small and lacking and you’ll achieve just that. The choice is yours. Our attitude shows up in everything we think, say and do.

Most of us have routine or mechanical "jobs or things" that we do everyday. For instance driving to work for many is a daily routine. Time wise this may be anywhere from 10 minutes up to an hour.

How are you using this time?

Your attitude is showing up right now. Your attitude is setting the stage for what is next to come. If you are choosing a grumpy or negative attitude on your commute to work you are sending waves of grumpy energy ahead of you to your workplace. While you are driving to work you can focus on how awful traffic is and how stressed you are, letting your thoughts run rampant. Then you arrive at work and walk into exactly the same energy you created. You are always attracting back what you give out. Surprise! If you don’t like what you have created, the bonus is you can re-choose in any given moment to change your attitude and thus create new and better results.

During the drive to work you can consciously set your intention to "feel good" and think about all the benefits you derive from your work. Plus you can use your driving time to listen to your favorite music or an inspirational CD. Busy people can take this opportunity for quality alone time with a gentle attitude shift.

I’m lucky to have this job where I get to meet some really wonderful people.
I love to receive my paycheck for work well done.
I really enjoy testing my skills with this job.
Challenges are a way for me to develop more creativity.
I thrive on helping and serving others.
My contribution to this company is valuable.

Changing your thoughts and attitudes to a more positive outlook will bring more success and prosperity into your daily experience.

To your continued success and prosperity!
Elizabeth

It's about time

2009-04-28T07:54:00.000-06:00

Time. We all have the exact same amount of it, no more, no less.

Sometimes it seems as though time slips away without our noticing it. I urge you to be more present in your life, notice the beauty and the moments around you, this is it, right here and right now. If you don't like what you are noticing maybe it's time to make some changes in your life.

Maybe you had ideas and plans that didn't take root and grow and you need some inspiration to maximize your energy. Today, take some time to examine your life and your priorities, then set your intention to use your time effectively on what is really important to you. Make time your friend rather than your enemy.

Today while running errands I really made sure I paid attention to the moment by being extra friendly with the people providing the services I needed. When I had wait time I didn’t get frustrated and impatient.

Your time really equals your life what will you do with it?

If you need any help or guidance I would be delighted to be your personal coach. Coaching works! Please visit my website page on coaching to see how it can improve your life.

Blessings,
Elizabeth

Living Deliberately!

2009-04-23T11:37:00.002-06:00

Life proceeds out of your intentions for it. When you are aware of this, you can live your life deliberately. The things you think, you think deliberately. The things you say, you say deliberately. The things you do, you do deliberately. When you do something and people say, " You did that deliberately!" It will not be an accusation, but a compliment.
Neale Donald Walsch from Friendship with God.

Wow, did that paragraph ever make sense for me. I have been practicing this principle and does it ever make a difference as to what I create. I recommend a "pause" before speaking, check to see if what you are about to say will create harmony or disharmony. When I am driving, I can now decide ahead of time to have a peaceful journey rather than a stress filled nightmare. The other drivers no longer have any power to upset or offend me because I have already decided that I will remain in a positive frame of mind. To further enhance my peace of mind, I now ensure that I have different uplifting audio tapes in my car which allow me to remain focused on my goal of creating a more positive experience.

While greeting the harried person operating the till at any check out counter, I remind myself that it is not their fault there is a line up and remember to smile and greet them kindly. I have found out what a difference these small things can do to improve my overall mood and countenance.

When arriving home after your work-day, pause before you enter your home and decide what kind of evening you desire to have. How will you speak to your family? What can you say to open the lines of communication and create rapport?

I know that when my daughter gets home from school she needs about 15 minutes to unwind and "veg", before I start reminding her to do her homework or get ready for dance or any of the myriad of things that are on my mind. When I allow her this time and use it for us to re-connect over a cup of tea, we have a much more gentle and loving experience. I used to push her to "hurry up" as my mind was filled with a "to do" list. Now I am focused on creating a more harmonious relationship that is rewarding for both of us. The power of deliberate intent is working in my life!

Try it for yourself today: Live Deliberately and make every moment count!

Blessings,

Elizabeth

There's a price to pay for everything

2009-04-21T09:52:00.002-06:00

I often hear the adage: "There is a price to pay for everything!"

Let's look at what this really means, as more often than not, it seems to have a negative connotation. I also often hear it used as a threat; such as, "there is a price to pay for that you know!" Sounds quite ominous and menacing. However there is another way to look at the situation.

There is a price to pay for everything, yes indeed. There is a price to pay in the "doing" of something and the "not doing" of something.

For example, if I wanted to lose weight, I would choose my prices as follows:
Find something I love to do for a physical activity and do it regularly. Price = A slim healthy body.

Eat indiscriminately without paying much attention to nutrition and quality. Price = A sluggish possibly overweight body.

Both are prices. Which price would you rather pay?

I recently heard someone say, "When you do what's hard, life becomes easy. When you do what’s easy, life is hard."

I have been paying a price recently in the excitement of getting my second book written and ready for publishing.

A mentor of mine said this to me, "It's much easier to read a book than to write one."

This really got my attention because at the time I was procrastinating writing my own book. I was using the excuse of needing more "research", more "knowledge". Anyhow, he was quite right. It is much easier to read one than to write one. Each choice comes with a price. I am delighted with the price I am paying. I feel like I came away with the best possible value.

Taking the time and energy to write my second book and having it published.
Price = Completed book and continuing my dream of being an author and making a difference in the world through my words.

Versus not taking the time and energy to write and publish my second book, continue to read other authors books and enjoy my life with leisure time galore.

Price = no book, (boo, hoo) and nothing much else to show except all that leisure time.

You see, it does take commitment and effort to achieve our dreams. We must actively pursue them. Dreams don't come to us; we must go after them. The price for not going for our dreams can be very costly indeed! I love paying the "right" price. My book will be a physical reality this year! Yahoo!

Remember there is always a price to pay, no matter what. What price are you are willing to pay for letting another year slip by before stepping towards your own dreams?

Multiple Blessings,

Elizabeth

The Game of Life

2009-04-16T09:06:00.002-06:00

I played a board game with my daughter the other day called "The Game of Life". It's a rather fun game and can reveal some interesting stuff in your own life.

On this particular day, I had reason to remember that we get what we think about.

"Thinking about" something is giving that "something" attention and attention creates "it". (Whether wanted or unwanted)

"It" being whatever shows up in our life. Whatever we are thinking about, we get. I get what I vibrate, not what I want. There are only two vibrations: positive and negative. I either feel good or I don't. I get what I think about. Period! When I think about good things (positive vibration) I get more good things. When I think about yucky stuff (negative vibes) I get more yucky stuff.
So here's the fun part; I am playing The Game of Life which seems to reflect what’s inside me that day.

The game began. I decide to go directly to work and not get an education. (That's the entrepreneur in me coming out to play.) I take a breath. My occupation, what shall it be? I draw a card...and "personal assistant" is now my occupation. Ok I can handle that. Now the salary card...drum role and Ta da! my salary is now $20.000 . What the bleep is going on? "That’s the lowest salary I could possibly get!" Notice my thinking has begun already! (As my daughter nicely draws twice that amount.)

What will "life" have in store for me today? I spin the wheel, I land on pay $5,000 (please note that we only start the game with $10.00 and I only got one measly pay day so far.) Things were definitely not starting off in the right direction for me. (Or so I thought).

We continue on for the next five or six turns. I landed on every possible square that could penalize me for something. I was paying out cash way faster than it was coming in. Nothing but taxes and bills. (Something like real life perhaps?) I was starting to feel frustration building and this was only a "game". (Mirroring my real life.)

I will confess to having unproductive thoughts recently. "Wow I sure am getting a lot bills" crossed my mind on more than one occasion. I even got a parking ticket in real life. That combined with a number of unusual, unexpected bills had me focusing on what was going out and how many bills I needed to pay. I was feeling a little miffed with the Universe for bringing even more bills!

Now it’s showing up here on a board game. Coincidence? I think not. Then I remembered to think about what I wanted and I landed on a square that said I could take any other players salary card. Ha Ha! Sweet, finally I had the opportunity to change the probable outcome of the "game of life". I began focusing on getting ahead and guess what happened? I ended up winning the game.

The point here is not to accumulate money to the exclusivity of all else. But to remember you get what you think about. You literally draw to yourself what you are "complaining about" and what you "don't want". Because if you are thinking about what you "don't want", you are feeding it more energy.

I was thinking about not wanting any more bills, and guess what? I kept getting even more.
I switched to thinking about receiving unexpected gifts, bonus's and income. I have already started to notice that what's appearing in my mailbox is changing to what I really do want.

The Universe matches our thoughts with physical reality.

How's your "game of life" going this week?

What are you thinking about? Have fun with it.

Blessings,

Elizabeth

Inspirational message
You know what you are today but not what you may be tomorrow. Use your imagination and look at things as they can be.

You can do anything you wish to do, have anything you wish to have, and be anything you wish to be. You don't know what you can really do until you try. All you have to do is to act on your dreams.

You have the power within you to do things you never dreamed possible. You would amaze yourself if you did all the things you're capable of doing. This power becomes available to you as soon as you change some of your beliefs.
Success begins in your mind.

THE DAILY GURU

Rain or Shine? The Importance of "Being"

2009-04-14T09:12:00.002-06:00

Happy After Easter !

What a lovely weekend it was. I was able to get outside walking, raking and most importantly, simply being. Are you so busy doing that you forget to BE? I always like to remember that we are human beings not human doings. Our weekends should not be defined by how much we get done.

As a happiness expert, I really believe in enhancing the quality of life by taking time to relax and enjoy the magic of spring. Listening to the birds singing, watching my cat explore the garden after a long indoor winter. Relishing the long day light hours.

Have you been paying attention to the beauty around you? Have you been enjoying your day no matter what the weather?

Ah Mother Nature... the weather... exactly what is great weather anyway? There is something great in every kind of weather. Some combination of elements that is magnificent in each creation.

The other evening I got caught in the rain. The rain and thunderstorm started while we were out for a walk. Guess what? It was fun! We had fun getting wet and listening to the thunder and smelling the fresh air.

It was a delicious sensation. I urge you to go out and get wet in the next rainstorm on purpose. See for yourself. Let your inner child out to play.

And please share your stories with me. I'd love to hear from you!

Blessings,

Elizabeth

Appreciation and gratitude

2009-04-09T08:56:00.002-06:00

"While life is not always fun, it is always a gift."

I recently came across this line in an article written by Marianne Williamson. I am aware that I have spent many days not recognizing my life as the gift it is. Years ago, I made a conscious decision to live life joyfully and with zest, making my moments count. Yet, I feel I am still learning about appreciation and gratitude. I recognize how very much I take for granted. Things I simply expect to be here for me.

Recently I was talking to a beloved friend who lives in Florida and she was telling me about the effects one of the hurricanes had on her life. No power, no running water for 4 - 5 days. Hence; no hot water, no drinking water, no fridge, no stove. Thus, all the food in the fridge going bad, etc. etc. etc.

I thought about the ramifications of not having things I just assume will always be available to me. What happens when they are not here! Suddenly it's "poor me". Now I can complain because I don't have it. But, did I ever give thanks and gratitude for it in the first place? Not often enough I assure you.

You can imagine how she was appreciating having a BBQ and a generator.

Why does it take the loss of something good to get us to appreciate it?

I have been reading a wonderful novel about a woman who goes back two hundred years in time, from 1946 to 1745. No running water, no electricity, therefore no hot baths. Ouch - that one got me! Apparently I needed a book reminding me to appreciate my wonderful soaker tub and the seemingly endless miracle of piping hot water at my fingertips. I do not have to boil a cauldron of water over a wood fire to get hot water. Think about our ancestors not so very far back, about 7 or 8 generations ago. This was their reality. I now remember to be grateful for my comfortable tub of piping hot water every time I get in.

Thank You, Thank you, Thank you! I am grateful for my tub. I appreciate my tub!

My hope is that today, you will take a moment to appreciate something you have taken for granted in life.

Blessings,

Elizabeth

To Thine own self be true...

2009-04-07T08:41:00.002-06:00

“To Thine own self be true..."

Most of us are familiar with the above quote taken from Shakespeare's Hamlet, but how many of us know this verse: "And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou can not then be false to any man."

Unless we can be true to ourselves first, we cannot be true to others.

Are you living your truth? Are you able to express yourself authentically? Are you really doing what brings you joy each and every day?

I used to be where you might be right now. My answer to these questions was a resounding NO!

Let me show you how to manifest the life you deeply desire; if I can do it, then so can you!

Taking a moment to answer these questions can be life changing.

If not now, then when?
When will you really start living your life?
When the kids get older? When you have more time, more money?
When everything is perfect?

Guess what, there is never a perfect time to begin anything! (Other than right now.) Begin living, working and moving towards your dreams right this very moment.

As Easter day approaches, I encourage you to love and honor self by choosing to take some action in the direction of your dreams. Any action, no matter how small, will give you a huge lift and it will feel great. The more you love yourself the more you can love the people in your life.

Spreading love around is fun and makes life worthwhile.

What is holding you back?

Happy Easter!

Just for the Fun of It

2009-04-02T08:17:00.001-06:00

When is the last time you did something "just for the fun of it?"

It seems like we are shy about doing fun things, and having fun in our lives. I overhear the everyday conversations of people everywhere I go. Can you guess what I overhear?

How busy and tired and blah blah blah everyone is!

I will ask you again. When is the last time you did something just for the fun of it? No mistake here, you actually intended to have fun!

What was it you were doing? Think about it right now? How did you feel? Did you laugh, smile or chuckle? Did you laugh out loud at the thought of it? If you can't remember the last time you had fun and laughed out loud, then please call me immediately for a brain boost!

Starting right now I challenge you to "share your fun times"; talk about how much fun you had. How much enjoyment you derived from your fun. Bring a new smile to your face each time you remember fondly of the cherished fun event. Share it with everyone you meet, greet or acknowledge during your day. On the elevator, at the bank, in the store, at home with your family. Play the remember game with those who share common fun times. Then notice how much happier you are feeling as result.

Talking about fun and laughter creates wonderful results. Even more fun and laughter will show up in your life.

Today, make a sincere effort to have fun and share your laughter, on purpose! You'd be doing the world a huge favor.

Blessings,
Elizabeth

Moments

2009-03-31T08:42:00.002-06:00

If the moment you are experiencing is not beautiful, recreate it. Choose a new thought. Right now and now and now...

A question for you - 0n average what percentage of time do you feel happy?

According to a recent study, the average reported time we feel happy is about 54%.

Another question for you - what are we doing with the other 46% of our time?

Genuine happiness results in finding purpose and meaning in life. I spent many, many years feeling depressed and/or neutral about my life. I am so grateful for the wake up calls I've received which brought me a new awareness and hence meaning in my life. I now allow the presence of my higher self and intuition to guide my life. It is a fantastic journey which I would love to share with you. Each of us is deeply connected to the source of all there is and we are surrounded by loving beings whose only purpose is to help us live our lives more joyfully and with purpose.

Studies indicate that happy people remember more good events than actually happened, and they forget more of the bad events. Selective memory working for us!

Did you know that optimists have 19% greater longevity? Living well and loving life right now. It all starts in this moment. This is the only moment we have.

On the weekend I found out a dear friend of my brother has been diagnosed with terminal cancer and she's only in her forties. No one knows how much time they will be given to live, so live life fully right now! This is your moment to make a difference.

What are you waiting for?

Blessings
Elizabeth

Gratitude???

2009-03-26T08:15:00.002-06:00

One of the biggest keys to living a happier more fulfilling life is to be grateful for our blessings every single day. On "good days" it's easy to be grateful. You know the kind of day where everything goes smoothly and easily. But...when something "bad" shows up, it's easy to get caught up in the negative spin cycle and begin complaining and moaning and groaning about our misfortunes!

Good and bad are really only perceptions of our ego mind. We make a judgement on something and then label it. Sometimes we think something is really awful and then a year later we recognize that something better arose because of the initial situation - like being fired from a job we disliked and finding a great new job more suitable to our talents and desires.

Recently, I had a great opportunity to be grateful when my car broke down. My first reaction.. "SHITake"(mushroom) not again! Going through the litany of things to be done, I found myself fuming. Calling for a tow truck, phoning the repair shop, arranging for a ride etc. etc. etc. It's amazing how dependant I am on my car, yet I don't remember being so thankful for it when it was working and getting me to my destinations. Hmmm, food for thought! What we take for granted is astounding.

Then I started to recognize what I could really be grateful for about this situation:

1) I was giving an important presentation in the afternoon and I was extremely thankful that my car broke down after my presentation, saving me a great deal of anxiety and stress.
2) My car started acting "funny" on the way home and I kept thinking, if only I can make it home, if only I can make it home... I made it home! Now I could wait for the tow truck from the comfort and convenience of my own home.
3) My evening workshop was located close to my house making it easy to walk. (Therefore I did not need a bus or taxi)
4) My car broke down on a Thursday. (If my car had broken down on Friday night I would have been carless for 3 entire days as it was a long weekend and the repair shop would have been closed.)
5) The repair shop fixed my car in one day!
6) I was able to get a friend to take me to pick up my car.
7) I am a member of AMA making it easy to get a tow.

I could probably go on with things I am grateful for despite the fact that my car broke down.

Remember that circumstances do not make for happy people.

You decide to be happy despite your circumstances.!

Blessings and Gratitude for you!
Elizabeth

The Power of Your Thoughts - Put Them to Good Use This Spring

2009-03-24T06:54:00.004-06:00

It's hard to believe that spring is officially here!

Spring is such a wonderful time of year to be outside and enjoy the freshness and invigorating qualities. With this is mind, let us invigorate our thoughts. Our thoughts are very real, biochemical and bioelectrical impulses, which send out waves of energy just like radio waves. Whatever frequency we send out comes back to us.

Did this ever "hit me in the face" recently! I know for sure that we often teach what we most need to learn and boy I am learning!

I had some errands to run, one of which was stopping at the bank. The line up was tremendously long and my thinking was not conducive to being in the moment. I teach others how to use our "wait" times productively and proactively by focusing on your desires or "daydreaming". In addition to this, we can actively send positive energy to others in the line ups or to the people who are serving us by simply thinking kind and loving thoughts. On this particular day, I did not practice what I preach and this is what happened... I walked into the bank, immediately groaned and let out one short expletive! (Sound familiar?) Since I had both personal and business banking to do, I thought I would fair better in the "business line up".

I set myself up for a long and challenging wait! I just wasn't in the mood to send positive energy; I just wanted to get the heck out of there! So I watched the clock, and watched and watched, as the minutes slooooowly ticked by, ticking me off with each passing moment. I allowed myself to get more and more anxious and agitated, the language in my head and under my breath becoming more and more X-rated!

Glaring at the tellers who were obviously incompetent and wondering why the manager was not out helping????? The next thing I knew, two tellers disappeared from the floor... leaving me fuming even more. A man in a suit walked by and said "they will be right back - they need to get some change for another customer." (I was thinking if he really cared he would have been assisting the tellers not just walking by and giving me some flowery speech.)

Customer service I harrumphed, what a crock! Well to make a long story shorter, the more I gave my attention to this negative energy and sent it out, the longer I waited. In fact, this was the longest wait I have ever experienced, a full 20 minutes! I was in an ugly mood when I left!

Thank goodness I keep uplifting tapes in the car and within a few moments of listening to Marianne Williamson, I returned to my "body". The moment of truth hit me hard. I had just learned a very valuable lesson. I just allowed myself to completely waste 20 full minutes of my precious time! Time that I could not get back; this was my life, my day, and although I had errands to run, I could still choose to enjoy my moments. What would have been more pleasant - doing some active day dreaming or choosing to get angry? No one forced me to think in a way which caused me tension and stress. No one but me that is!

I vowed to remember what is truly important as I move through my days, and sure enough, another opportunity soon presented itself to me. I ran into Safeway to grab a "couple of things" and the lineups were 5 deep at every till. I choose the 15 items or less lane and realized that I had just over 15 items, oops! The cashier was clearly struggling to maintain her composure and her smile and greeting were "thin". I chose to send her loving thoughts and started speaking to her in a friendly manner, saying "wow is it ever busy in here", giving her permission to vent some of her own frustration.

She said "she couldn't wait for the day to be over and 4 cashiers had called in sick and customers were not pleasant etc. etc." After she vented, I said how lucky we are that we can just pop into a grocery store and buy whatever we want to eat. This started her talking about the many blessings we take for granted each and every day and being more appreciative. We both laughed over the fact that waiting an extra 5 minutes to get food makes people crabby, as if it's a life or death situation!

Oh my gosh! Should we have to gather our own food supplies from the wild, then we would have something to complain about.

I left feeling like I had contributed a bit of "peace" to the cashier and to the world at large. I felt good about the use of my time and energy. What a difference our attitudes and decisions make in our daily life.

What are you taking for granted today?

From now on I intend to practice what I preach!

Anger vs. Happiness

2009-03-19T08:16:00.002-06:00

For Every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Recently I undertook a project that I had been delaying for quite some time. I really wanted a new meditation room but was unwilling to put in the work required.

Finally I could wait no longer. I started out by attacking the old wallpaper with anger dreading the hours of labor involved in removing it. And swearing because it was coming off in itsy bitsy pieces. I looked around the room and realized at the rate I was going it would take days just to remove the wallpaper. I felt completely overwhelmed by the task and felt even more anger well up.

Then, a realization washed over me... I was in control of my attitude and if I was going to spend my precious time on this task I was going to have FUN! I put on some great music, made a mug of tea and voila...transformation.
After my shift in consciousness, the wallpaper started peeling off in much larger pieces as if coming into alignment with my thoughts of peace. Plus, I was now enjoying myself and getting into a rhythm or flow.

The only thing that changed was my thoughts; the work was still there but was now a manageable and relatively enjoyable task.

This week, check in with your thoughts. Are you preparing supper with anger in your heart? Are you volunteering with resentment? Are you washing dishing with frustration? Remember in all of our daily tasks we can create a moment of joy by changing our thoughts.

Remember SHIFT Happens! Decide to enjoy your moments and your tasks become less onerous and much more enjoyable.

Blessings,
Elizabeth

The Meaning Of Love

2009-03-17T08:10:00.002-06:00

It's been a very busy and fulfilling March so far. I have had the opportunity to meet many new people and watch as some friendships change and grow in new and different ways. I sit and write these words from my heart as I intend for us learn and grow together.

Change is the only constant we can count on. Recently, a very dear friend of mine met a new person to welcome into his life. This is fantastic news and I feel such joy at the thought of his enhanced happiness. (Impending change...)

The vibration of happiness is a huge gift for the whole planet as every single person contributes to our overall well being. The more happiness we send out, the higher the vibration, the better we feel.

There was a time in my life when I resisted change. In fact, sometimes I still do, but I am getting smarter all the time.

I had grown quite content with what I'll call "our Sundays". My dear friend and I would share an afternoon including an excellent Sunday brunch and a long walk by the river with the dog. Sharing conversation or quiet companionship, the time flew by and all too soon it would be evening.

Last Sunday was my first Sunday of "the change"! It was a beautiful sunny afternoon. Then it hit me! I felt sad, in fact I was grieving over the loss I felt. I would no longer experience "our Sundays" as they once were (he had met a woman and felt it was no longer appropriate for us to share a weekend as friends, even though that's all we were.)

A powerful shift had occurred. I allowed myself to feel sad, to experience the fullness in my heart. My daughter came out and caught me in my sadness, and I explained to her that I was releasing what was in my heart and that I was both happy and sad at the same time.

As I share in my Science of Happiness presentations; happiness is defined moment to moment! Does this mean we will never have any moments of unhappiness? NO! it means we will no longer be a poor victim and we get over stuff sooner.

Question - How often do we allow ourselves and our children to express fully, without having to apologize or hide it? Energy is tangible and if you "feel it" it's real and children are especially good at knowing when something is wrong! Sharing a moment of sadness can be a valuable, nurturing experience.

Once again, a turning point, moving me in a new direction. This isn't the first time I have felt this and likely not the last. Over the past year there have been many other shifts in friendships due to marriages, babies and new "significant others". Life brings with it natural changes and accommodations. I am sure that there will be new and different experiences to share and I trust that the Universe knows what it is doing. I gave myself last Sunday afternoon to spend in quiet reflection of some treasured memories and gave myself to permission to feel sadness and yet know the TRUTH.

If you really love someone, you want them to be happy, whatever that means for yourself. This is the ultimate gift to give. Love at its' very best.

The meaning of love...ahh,l I think I've got it now!

Blessings to you,
Elizabeth

Is Happiness really that simple? Part two

2009-03-06T08:21:00.002-07:00

I recently spoke to a group of highly educated and beautiful woman about happiness. Earnestly, one woman asked me to “go deeper” and give her a more complicated formula. “I already know this stuff she declared.”

Yes, I asked, but are you practicing it? Are you committed to these “obvious” and absolutely proven scientific principles (that I had taught during my presentation)?

I explained why commitment and practice of these happiness tools is necessary. It is not enough to listen to what I have to say. The real benefit lies in practice. Neuroplasticity is our brain's ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout our life.

I explained in my seminar that old thoughts, and habits have a deep groove or pathway in our brains, the neurons fire quickly and it feels very comfortable.

When we decide to make any change in our life we start thinking in a new way, a new desire, a new idea, we re-focus. As we do, we begin creating a new path-way. Imagine planting a seedling in your brain. As you nurture and tend to this new seedling it grows into a strong and healthy, deep pathway in our brain. Our brain's ability to create new neural pathways is literally our path to happiness.

Begin adding a golden goblet of gratitude, a miraculous mindful moment, a big belly breath, or a loud laugh and you will see, feel and experience instant and immediate positive results.

Let's grow together. We all need to be fertilized with love and kindness. I know I grow stronger, healthier and happier with the right fertilizer.

Together we can Get Happy and Happier!

Is Happiness really that simple? Part one

2009-03-03T08:43:00.003-07:00

This weekend I had the joyful pleasure of speaking about my favorite topic; happiness.
It is my desire to experience greater and greater peace in my life. Genuine happiness is about contentment. It is important to be content with your life as it currently is, and at the same time, create a greater, more magnificent expression of who you are. Happiness is the absolute best way to travel through our experiences.

What gets in our way of happiness is the need to make it complicated. In my research, I've found proven, scientific methods for becoming happier and more contented. The problem? They are deceptively simple. We overlook and dismiss them because they are so simple, so obvious. It comes down to a basic mathematical and scientific formula.

Be grateful for what you now have.
Be generous of heart and spirit.
Be more loving and kind.
Meditate.
Exercise.
Breathe Deeply.

The more I practice the better I get. The better I get at happiness, the more happiness I get to spread around. I have decided to create a happiness epidemic. If you are with me, then join this blog following and spreading the messages found here. You too can be one of my ambassadors of happiness!

Tune in Thursday for Part two of this post.

Anxious? Depressed? Fearful?

2009-02-25T08:47:00.002-07:00

You don't need to take pills to control the anxiety, depression and fear stemming from challenges like the global recession and the never-ending flood of bad news served up by the media.

Nor do you need alcohol, tobacco, or other drugs.

There are far healthier and more effective ways to deal with everything the world throws at you.

The number one way is by meditating everyday! Meditation is a sure fire way to remain calm and balanced. I have received hundreds of emails that my Guided Meditation Chakra Cleansing and Balancing has been a real life-saver.

Comments include:

Helping to increase personal power, healing from stress and sleeping better.

In 1995, the authors of a report to the National Institutes of Health on complementary or alternative medicine reviewed 30 years of research and reports of individuals and health care providers. They concluded that meditation and related methods for the enhancement of relaxation are cost-effective ways to improve health and quality of life.

Meditation allows one to fully experience intense emotions without losing composure. The consequence of emotional balance is greater insight regarding one's thoughts, feelings, and actions. Insight, in turn, promotes confidence and awareness. Meditation also facilitates a greater sense of calmness, empathy, and acceptance of self and others.

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Go ahead and try it today, you will be happy that you did!

Elizabeth

Happiness Recipe

2009-02-23T16:49:00.001-07:00

Create some joy everyday with this five-step recipe.

Step one:
Open your eyes in the morning and be grateful that you are alive for another day! Before you get out of bed, set your intention to have a lovely day, breathe into your heart and feel love for yourself.

Step two:
Practice one act of loving kindness towards someone else today. Go beyond your ordinary obligations and reap the rewards!

Step three:
Stretch and move your body to get energy flowing and create more endorphins.

Step four:
Meditate (even if only for a few minutes) on the word peace. Repeat to yourself, I am now at peace, I feel peace; peace lives in me.

Step five
Eat some dark chocolate that is at least 70% cocoa and skip the sugary desserts or muffins. You will have more energy and feel greater joy and satisfaction with the chocolate (trust me I know!)

Have a lovely day and enjoy this recipe, guaranteed to turn out perfectly every-time!

The Practice of Patience

2009-02-21T10:56:00.002-07:00

This week I have many opportunities to practice patience. Dr. Wayne Dyer's quote kept coming to mind, "infinite patience brings immediate results."

While on hold with my mobile service provider for 30 minutes, the message keep coming on, "thank you for holding we appreciate your patience.”

While experiencing numerous delays and missed connecting flights at two airports this week, I again keep hearing over the loud speaker and by the flight attendants, "thank you for you patience; we appreciate your business. "

Part of me wanted to scream with frustration at the never ending delays and the other part decided to practice.

Here are some great ways to use your time and remain in a calm state during these inconveniences:

Remember to always be prepared for them by expecting the best and preparing for the worst: I always carry these things for traveling: snacks, water and a book or magazine and a sweater for comfort. Thank goodness I did because at the small terminal I was waiting in for over 3 hours there was no restaurant open and no bookstore period!
Holding on the phone? Invest in a speaker-phone, they are well worth the small investment saving your neck and ear and from undue stress and strain. This frees me up to do other small tasks while waiting. Wiping out the microwave, washing up a few dishes, rather than “waiting” use your time effectively and notice how much happier you can be.
Additionally I use my wait time to pray for my highest good. In any troublesome situation I declare: “ I release you to divine protection. God is in charge and only good shall come from this experience. Everyone involved shall be divinely satisfied and blessed” (Catherine Ponder)

Dark Chocolate - eat your way to better moods!

2009-02-13T07:58:00.002-07:00

My favorite happy food is … are you ready? Chocolate!

Today, research is showing how healthy dark chocolate is, and as one of natures super foods, is proven to relieve an amazing number of different health problems and enhance your mood and brain function.

Cocoa’s health promoting potential can be traced back to its optimized nutritional profile. It may surprise you to learn that chocolate is rich in a variety of nutrients that give it its energy-boosting, disease-preventing properties, even rivaling the nutritional power of many commonplace fruits and vegetables. Its key ingredients include various vitamins and minerals.

Chocolate also contains a compound called Tryptophan, which is a precursor of the natural antidepressant hormone serotonin. In fact, research shows that chocolate consumption increases levels of dopamine and serotonin in the body.

Cocoa also contains natural dopamine, which elevates moods and has been associated with increased mental acuity, increased concentration and a positive attitude. These two vital chemicals help lower risk of depression and increase overall mental function.

I am not talking about candy here. I am talking about real chocolate especially dark and cold pressed chocolate.

If you are interested and want to learn more please visit www.gethappywithchocolate.com

This healthy chocolate has been a God sent gift to me, and with my recent life challenges it has been wonderful to know I can eat chocolate and have no guilt!

So go ahead and get happy with chocolate!

Elizabeth

Faith or Fear - what are you choosing?

2009-02-11T06:51:00.002-07:00

Recently I have been undergoing some personal and life challenges that call for faith. It is easy to step into fear and more difficult to breathe in faith.

When these inevitable life challenges occur, we must do three things:

1) Let go of resistance to reality. What is, is! Bemoaning and complaining are not going to solve your problem.

2) Set clear intentions for the future, and ask, "what do you want to have happen from this point forth?"

3) Surrender doubt and fear knowing the big lessons equal big growth and look for the good in the situation.

Faith is in the Unseen, when evidence does not support it. Can you believe in a higher good even if you don’t see it? That is faith.

Faith is knowing that your well being is absolutely guaranteed.

Fear is knowing that your well being is not guaranteed.

Remember that there is an infinite intelligence in the Universe that supports and sustains you at all times everywhere.

Here is an affirmation you can use in times of challenge and difficulty:

Whatever has occurred in my life to this point has no power in this moment. I release any sense of being wronged or wounded. I now dissolve fear, anxiety or negative thoughts. I am safe, secure and loved right here and right now. I am a vehicle for good to flow through my life.

Love,
Elizabeth

Inside out and Backwards!

2009-02-05T08:22:00.001-07:00

Have you ever had one of those mornings? You know the kind I mean you get up and things are a bit wonky?

It happened to me recently. I was getting ready for my day and quirky little things were going on. Thank goodness I looked in the mirror before my first client as I realized I had my shirt on inside out and backwards. At this point I had two choices laugh or cry! I choose to laugh out loud and with gusto.

Why am I telling you this? Well, because energy is magnetic and I want you to know that you can shift your energy at any moment.

We can say to ourselves “this is going be a very bad day, look at what has already happened”, “this day is going from bad to worse”, “ I got out on the wrong side of bed today”. OR we can shift gears; just like with our vehicles we can hit reverse back up and then proceed forward with a new mind set and a new attitude.

A good laugh is a great energy shifter. I didn’t want to waste any more precious time on negative energy. After this release I felt better and indeed the rest of my day was lovely.

Remember that we always have a choice how we respond to what happens and I love asking myself these questions: (and yes I do talk to myself and sometimes get really good answers)

Elizabeth, is this really going to matter one year from now?
Elizabeth, is this really important enough for you to give your energy to?
Elizabeth, if you think you are going to laugh about this later why not laugh right now?

Sometimes we just get caught up in our stuff and need to remember what is truly important is coming back to inner peace.

So next time you are in chaos and everything that could go wrong is going wrong, stop and shift. Close your eyes take a few deep breaths and decide to change the channel!

Laugh at your next inside out and backwards day and you will emerge victorious!

Love,
Elizabeth

Hypnosis, Hollywood and the Devil!

2009-02-03T07:31:00.002-07:00

Hypnosis: facts and fiction.

You are getting very sleepy, you will now do everything I tell you to do, you will be under my control and you will do things against your will! (Fiction)

I remember years ago watching an episode of Hart to Hart with handsome billionaire couple Jonathon and Jennifer (Robert Wagner and Stephanie Powers.) Jennifer was hypnotized by the bad guys; forcing her to drive dangerously and speed up around a sharp corner to cause her own demise. That my friends is Hollywood: powerful yet extremely misleading. If this were true, there would be a great number of bad guys out to hypnotize us to do all their dirty work.

Recently, I offered to present some free workshops for various churches to substantiate some material for my upcoming book on happiness and I was shocked that their refusal was based on my using hypnosis as a happiness tool.

It just goes to show you how much fear and misconceptions abound!

The fact is that clinical hypnosis is a valuable and valid tool for personal growth and development. You will never “do” or "believe" anything that would be harmful for yourself or others.

Most people think of hypnosis as stage hypnosis where people act in humorous and funny ways. Again I reiterate that they indeed want to behave in this way and they are giving themselves permission to release from their conscious minds inhibitions.

Clinical hypnosis owes its effectiveness to the power of the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind controls 96% of our behavior. It is the storehouse for memory and information. The subconscious mind can be considered the cause, change the cause and you change the effect.

The infinite intelligence in your subconscious mind can give you access to great healing, new thoughts and ideas and help to release old beliefs that no longer serve. Clinical Hypnosis is safe, effective and relaxing. When thoughts are conveyed in your subconscious mind impressions are made in your brain cells.

My goal is to heal, bless, elevate and inspire you to become more confident, stronger, healthy and whole. Clinical Hypnosis is a tool that generates fast results.

I can assure you that it's not the devil's work, is more than entertainment and it has solid science behind it.

With love,
Elizabeth

Overcoming Grief

2009-01-30T06:01:00.002-07:00

Recently I've had two friends who had to put their beloved pets down. This is always a painful and difficult decision. Even if we know it is the right thing to do, letting go and saying goodbye is hard to do.

Having been through this experience myself, I am empathetic to the emotions and the grief process. People who have pets know that they are part of our families and become an important element in our lives.

It is the callous person who remarks it was "only a dog" or "only a cat" or "only a horse", without knowing the hurt they effect. Undermining your grief can cause a bottling up of emotions, which is harmful to your health.

Here are a few suggestions to help you cope and move back towards happiness:

1) Create a memory book with pictures and write down some of your favorite pet stories.
2) Hold a service to commemorate your pet's life.
3) Give yourself permission to grieve and take some time to reflect on the impact your pet had on your life.
4) Share your feelings and talk about your pet with a compassionate and understanding friend.
5) Eat some dark chocolate which is sugar free and contains at least 60% Cacao to boost your mood.
6) Watch funny movies to restore your bio-chemical balance by releasing more serotonin.
7) Keep some fresh flowers on your table or desk and allow them to bring a smile to your face as you remember the love you shared.
8) Get a massage or reflexology treatment, as we store grief in our cells we need the stimulation to release and let go.

Most of all; be kind and gentle to yourself as you adjust to your loss. There is no rigid time frame that needs to be followed in the process of healing.

With love,
Elizabeth

Are you rationalizing your life?

2009-01-28T13:35:00.002-07:00

As many of my readers are aware, I have developed an extremely strong intuitive sense. This sense was not always welcomed with open arms. In fact, most of us disregard this voice with rational-LIES!

Did you get that? We tell ourselves we are being rational and using our mind, but we negate what we know to be truth. Your intuition is not rational and is not based on your intellect.

Our deeper truth comes as a direct link to source energy. Think about the animal kingdom. All animals rely on their intuition only we call it animal instinct. Luckily for them they cannot rationalize and therefore listen to their guidance system. Birds make long and arduous journeys because they are guided to for their highest good. Salmon swim upstream because they must!

Can you imagine if the animals suddenly decided to it wasn’t rational or logical to make these trips? "Come on" they would say, "this is crazy… swim upstream, fly for days or weeks when it would be easier to stay right where I am!"

This is what we do as humans. We get a message, we know it is our truth and then we decide to take the easy route and rationalize our way out. Believe me, this is not the road to happiness. Often your guidance system does want you to do something that may be out of your comfort zone. Take a risk and explore life a little deeper.

Listening to your intuition is the single most important skill you can learn. It never lies and will always lead you to a greater life experience. Trust in it today!

The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.
- Albert Einstein

Think of a time when you wished you would have listened to your intuitive voice, what was the outcome of the decision when you rationalized? Keep a little notebook and start to pay attention - you will be astonished at what you KNOW!

In truth,
Elizabeth

Benefits of laughter

2009-01-23T08:10:00.002-07:00

Laughter really is the best medicine!

Who doesn't love a great belly laugh? You know the type. When your eyes are tearing, nearing falling off the sofa and that relaxed yet exhilarated feeling afterwards? I really appreciate a good laugh and my favorite movies are comedies. I would much rather watch something funny than action or drama because I want to be as happy as possible and this is one great way to increase feelings of happiness.

Did you know laughter is good for your health? Even when it is fake or forced, it still has the same positive effects on your body's systems and mental state.

A study done at the University of Maryland Medical Center suggests that a good sense of humor and the ability to laugh at stressful situations helps mitigate the damaging physical effects of distressing emotions.

Norman Cousins wrote a book entitled Anatomy of an Illness, based on his recovery from a “terminal” prognosis.

Most fascinating about Cousin’s story though is the central theme of laughter. Despite intense pain and discomfort, Cousin’s made a point of laughing so hard his stomach hurt during the early stages of his Marx brother’s intervention, and this “unquenchable” laughter never failed to produce a strong reduction in his feelings of pain. Cousins goes on to mention many prominent thinkers throughout the ages who knew about the healing power of laughter, and this list includes: Sir Frances Bacon, Immanuel Kant, Sigmund Freud, as well as the great Albert Schweitzer. This list could be much longer, and Cousins own story has given rise to many new ways of thinking that helped contribute to the rise of phenomena such as the laughter club.

Ultimately, laughter may represent the rapture of the human spirit, and in finding this rapture we also find our way back to health. Norman Cousins certainly thought so, and his journey back to life through laughter is an inspiration to us all.

Medical studies prove that laughter boosts levels of endorphins, the body's natural painkillers, and suppresses levels of epinephrine, the stress hormone. In an ABC television interview, Professor Lee Berk, who has studied laughter and medicine for the past 18 years, explained that laughter increased the Natural Killer Cell activity, the cells that destroy viruses and tumors. Laughter increased a disease-fighting protein, B-cells, the source of a disease-destroying antibody, and T-cells which help cellular immune response.

Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases infection fighting antibodies. It increases our attentiveness, heart rate, and pulse.

Why not include some laughter in your life today? Remember that you really are promoting your own health and happiness by laughing more.

(Check out this fascinating you tube for more info on Laughing Yoga):

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXEfjVnYkqM

With laughter,
Elizabeth

Finding peace, joy and harmony in life

2009-01-22T06:22:00.002-07:00

Reader question from Julie:

I've just recently switched career paths. I am looking for more customers to help my business thrive. I enjoy connecting with people, helping them in any area in their life that I can. I am trying to come to a place in my life where I am at peace, joy and in harmony with life. Thank you for your gift.
Sincerely,
Julie
Invermere, BC

Response from Elizabeth:

Hi Julie,

Peace, joy, harmony… all great things and yes they are achievable. Please read a few of my recent blog posts and you'll see how many of us want the same thing. This is wonderful because together we do have real power to change the world. Our collective unconscious and vibration will help others to experience more peace as well. It is contagious!

As you continue to focus on service, your business will expand. Focus on what you have to give rather than what you can get.

Make a list of what your ideal customers look like. Imagine them flocking to your door, phoning and emailing you because they love your services and get real value from you.

As with any business, make sure you have a business plan and follow up! Seek help and guidance from those who inspire you. Let your heart be your guide and you will reap great rewards.

I do offer Hypno-coaching to those who really want to grow quickly and serious about improving their lives. Please call me for more information if you find this of interest. 780-445-9299

Knowing you have a successful and prosperous 2009 to come!

Blessings,
Elizabeth

Changing your vibration and the Law of Attraction

2009-01-21T06:23:00.002-07:00

Reader question:

Is there is some way to help me change my vibration so that I can attract things into my life by expecting, believing and therefore FEELING that the things I'd like to manifest are actually on their way, then I think I will really start to see changes in my life. ( I swear I've tried many things...)

Response from Elizabeth:

You have asked an important question about vibration and the Law of Attraction. How to move from where you are, to where you want to be. Hoping, wishing, and wanting will not change your vibe. A great tool is to use is what I call linking.

Make a list of all your positive achievements, accomplishments or anything at all that brings a smile and positive emotions to your conscious mind.

Once you begin to remember and think about anything positive, your brain responds with “feel good” chemicals. Now using this positive booster shot of chemicals and emotions, you can begin to transfer or link to your desires. Visualize your desires as if you already have them. What does it feel like to drive your convertible on a lovely summer day? What does it feel like to walk hand in hand with your loving spouse? If you feel “good”, then you’ve got it made! If you are feeling sad/mad because it hasn’t shown up yet then you are attracting more sadness/madness and not your desires.

Having faith and trust that what you want also wants you and that this Universe is a friendly and loving place helps you to maintain your high vibration while your desires come to you. Recognize every small improvement in your life is drawing you closer and closer to your ultimate goals. Give thanks for all the good in your life right now and even more can show up.

Remember that what you focus on expands so practice “feeling good” now!

Love,
Elizabeth

Achieving peace and financial freedom

2009-01-20T07:49:00.002-07:00

Reader question from Anita:

My special request - to be at peace with myself, financial freedom, confidence, calmness and no fear or stress.

Anita

Response from Elizabeth:

Sounds like you want the same thing all of my clients desire. It is possible to have and be at peace. Peace is the result of inner awareness. I found the best way to cultivate peace is through meditation. Researchers at University of Maryland School of Medicine report that meditation relieved stress, reduced cardiovascular risk factors, decreased psychological distress, and improved sleep patterns. I have created the Chakra Cleansing and Balancing Guided meditation to help bring peace plus physical and emotional well being into your life. With daily practice, you will feel more calm and confident, able to handle the tides of your life.

Fear can only be present if we are worried about the future. Stay present and know that you have every thing you need right now. Living in the moment has great rewards.

Financial freedom is achievable. Please visit www.kelleykeehn.com for some great tips for women.

Thank you so much for sharing and helping to create a community of positive minded and peaceful people.

Blessings,
Elizabeth

Asking for what you want in life

2009-01-18T13:49:00.007-07:00

Reader question from Melonie:

I just recently moved to Edmonton for a new job. Very excited about it and things are going well. I am currently in temporary accommodations and would love to find a beautiful place to live with a big fenced back yard. I have no idea how I could afford something like that but in order for me to have my dog to come and live with me, I need a space he can be happy with too. Plus in order to make sure he isn't too sad from leaving my parents and their dog I was thinking of getting a new puppy friend for him so the yard is extremely important. I am single and have been for a while now, so my dog is like my child. As I have just moved here I am also hoping to find like-minded friends, and of course it would be great to have a spouse in the near future. I am not certain how many things I am actually allowed to ask for but I have learned it can never hurt to ask. So I have made myself a vision board and would love for all the things to come true on that board. I would also like a fit, attractive and health body, financial freedom, and all my family members to be healthy and happy.

Thank you so very much for this opportunity!

Melonie

Response from Elizabeth:

Dear Melonie,

This is a great example of energy in motion. Working with the Universe and the Law of Attraction means we need to get our emotions and energy lined up to create more of what we want.

You raised an excellent question:

“ I’m not certain how many things I am allowed to ask for”.

Dream big and ask away. The Universe can only fill up the size of our vessel. Some of us come with a thimble and others with a tank! There is more than enough for everyone to prosper.

Creating a vision board is a great first step in helping us to see, imagine and think about our desires. The key is to see yourself in the pictures and know it is yours by divine right. Once again I find myself touting the benefits of visualization. Tapping into your subconscious mind, and consistently visualizing your dream (my Magnificent CD is designed just for this) is very powerful.

Most of us think we are “thinking” about our dreams and desires all the time. In fact we are usually thinking about the LACK of them and what we don’t have. We need to get to the feeling place where you feel great NOW and know your desires are manifesting. The law of gestation is closely linked to the Law of attraction. We do attract, and some things take longer to gestate. Remember that being happy now is your biggest asset. Only then can this happy energy go out and produce more positive results and so on.

Together we all make a powerful team! Let's continue to love and support each other making the world a happier place.

Yours in gratitude,

Elizabeth